A guy's question on online profiles

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Registered: 07-31-2005
A guy's question on online profiles
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 8:52am

Hey, I'm a guy, I put up my profile on Match and Yahoo, so do you think it's better to wait till somebody "winks" at me, or start writing emails to everyone?

I want to be absolutely certain of interest, so my plan is to wait until she initiates a "wink" (because if she just replies that could be mild interest).

Also, my profile has gotten 1 view in the past 24 hours, is that normal? If not, maybe the picture is not as good as it could be. What do you think about the idea of putting the picture up on HotOrNot .com to get an idea of how others perceive me?

Thanks

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 11:58am

Quite a few women will not initiate winks or emails, so you might be waiting a while if you do not do so.

You can test their interest by sending a wink, but from the Online Dating board, I know a lot of women think a wink is lame. So I would send a short email *that is specific to her profile* (very important) to the women you're interested in, and figure out a way to write out your regular email address (don't use the standard format, match will strip it out) so she can write to you even if she's not a subscriber.

I wouldn't bother with hot or not, but I would post more than one photo (2-3 is good).

Sheri

Avatar for cfk_3
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 4:53pm
I agree with NWW, I doubt that you will get many winks from women. Her advice to you was also on the money. Email some individuals whom you find interesting but keep it simple and be sure to include information personal to her so that she knows you have actually read her profile. Good luck!
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 2:52pm

I just got a "wink" from a 33yr-old "big and beautiful" woman with NO PHOTO.. no photo.

Why would a woman go on match.com without a picture?

Avatar for cl_shywon
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:08pm

I absolutely hate winks/icebreakers.

Avatar for cl_shywon
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:23pm

Men do it too.

Avatar for cfk_3
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 11:25am
Oh, come on, there could be countless reasons why someone would not want to post a picture. I'm certain that you are not that naive.