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| Tue, 08-30-2005 - 6:37pm |
In early, August, I visited Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, were I spent about a week. For four of those days I spent my time on a beach a few miles away from where I was staying, and met a lifeguard by the name of, Garret. I reside in Virginia, but despite that he wanted and took my number, as I did his. Every since then, which was about a month ago, we have chatted over the phone nearly everyday. He seems like a really great guy, nice funny, easy to talk to, ect. He also wants to come and visit during the middle of, September when his work ends. I am all for that and have told him it's fine. He seems very interested and excited about it, so we will see what happens in a few weeks.
The one thing that bothers me about him is the fact that he doesn't always do what he says he will in the calling area. Just like lsat night, we talked for a few minutes, then he wanted to shower, so he said he would call me back once he was done. Never happened. That isn't the first time this happend, because if it was I woudln't allow it to get to me. I have been around this block a few times before and am over it. But, for some reason I don't want to give up on him. He is the first guy I have come to like in a long while, and I would like to continue our friendship. He seems to want more, which was have discussed, but I am not in a state of being able to have a romantic relationship right now. I have too much other to deal with concerning family, and would not have time for someone in town near me, much less nearly six hours away.
Do you think I should give up on him before we get into anything further with a friendship or see where things go concerning it once he arrives?

megs618...
It's only PG's 2 cents....but all men DON'T RESPOND the way women expect them to. "Follow up phone calls" included!
Why not wait and see if he makes plans to actually SHOW UP in September? 6-hours isn't that far away, but perhaps you need to ask yourself whether you'll HONESTLY be comfortable if the man wants to "get romantic and/or physical" with you during his visit?
Pianoguy
Pianoguy~ Thank you for the adivce, it will surely be taken into strong considersation. As for your comment on men following up on phone calls, and responding the way women expec them to, I know this. You are very right.
As for him wanting to become romanic or physical with me, I think it enters his mind. Last night he asked if I was going to stay with him in his hotel. I told him we would have to see. I have been around long enough to know he doesn't want me over for milk and cookies. I really don't think I want anything physical with him, not right now, it's too soon.
Thank you so much for the advice :)
It's not about him acting as a woman "expects him to," it's about him keeping his word.
I think the physical does more than enter his mind.
Cl~ I think you are right about it doing more than entering his mind. But, I won't let it go that far, I'm not going to let myself be taken advantage of and never hear from him again. Been there, done that. As for my being skeptical, that I won't do until he says he isn't coming or something else comes up between now and then. Then, I will see what he is made of.
Thanks for the advice :)
CL~ I think you are also right about him keeping his word. But, don't think I didn't address that with him. I told him he has struck a nerve that I didn't appreciate it. He said he was sorry, so we'll see if he keeps that in line.
Thanks again.