Wot to do with a friends betrayal!!
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| Thu, 09-01-2005 - 7:37am |
Hie all,
am a newbie and am hoping the ladies of this group can help me out.
i am 24 and have had many goood friends in my life, but i never really had a best best friend you know.
Then two years ago i met this girl we were working together and we became instant friends. I always like to comment that she was a twin i was meant to have, i mean we were tite. There is nothing of mine even the most stupit things that she never knew and i used to beleive it was likewise.
She is getting married next week and i was to be her maid of honour. BUT...i will not be anymore coz i backed down. long story but to cut it short its like this, about two weeks ago i discovered that she went behind my back and did the unspeakable( at least in my books) she betrayed me and potrayed me in the worst light possible.
i have failed to come into terms with this and have since decided its better she and i stop being friends, coz i figured why should i be with someone who betrayed me so bad.
if anyone has ever been through this kind of thing, help me out on how i deal with this. coz now i dont think i can eve maintain a best girl friend ever?

When you talk about not ever being able to have a best girlfriend again, my advice to you there is, don't take one thing which has happened in one relationship, into another. That would not be fair to the other person.
I have been through a very similar situation. I had a bestfriend for about two years, and just last, June I went through something very large, she was not there for me. Always found somwehere else to be, or someone else took up her time. I was there for her night and day for the nearly two years we were friends, but when I needed something, she backed away. She called our friendship quits, and would not allow me to get my two cents worth in of why I recacted.
Moving on and letting go of your friend is easier said than done, but if you do not think you would be able to rebuild a friendship then it isn't meant to be. There are other fish in teh sea. Secondly, anyone that goes behind another *friends* back is NOT a true friend. Keep that in mind.
I wish you the best of luck :)
Hello!
I've been in similar situation two years ago. My "bestfriend" also betrayed me and told pretty nasty lies about me so she could look nice and sweet person (which she really is not)I did tell her that I don't want to friends anymore, cause friends DOESN'T treat one another like she had treated me. I haven't heard from her since...and hope I never will. I think, that if she betrayed me once she can easily do it again.
You just have to deside, what kind of friends you want in your life. I didn't want schemer and I don't regret my decision :)
Did you discuss your reasons for ending the friendship with her? I'm just wondering where you got the information that she betrayed you. Sometimes we hear things from other people and they blow things out of proportion, or misinterpret things, or just flat-out lie. I don't know, maybe you actually caught her in the act? I think it would have been fair to discuss it with her if you didn't.
As far as finding another best friend...it's hard to trust people after you've been betrayed. It happens to everyone at one point or another, so you're not alone. Just keep an open mind and remember that there are many good people out there. Sure, you'll get burned every once in a while but it's all part of human interaction. Or you can just become a recluse and not deal with it at all. :p
hey,
You know, she was the kind that talks too much but we were so close and that was never an issue with me.
But of course i asked and we discussed wotever that happened and she kept saying the people were framing her or wotever, but i guess at the end we both knew it hit too much close to home and she could not deny it anymore.
So that was when i told her that mebbe we should keep our distance and regroup.
She is not my enemy but just someone i would not wish to have in my future, close to me.
Thanks for taking time to respond, i hope i will move on after this.