Women being aloof

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Women being aloof
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 12:33am

If you heard through the grapevine that a man was interested in you, would you become aloof around him? Would this mean you were completely uninterested or completely shy/nervous?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 7:40am
I don't think this is something you can generalize about. There are billions of women in the world and each one is a unique individual; each one would respond in her own, individual way. Iri
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 7:50am

For me it would depend on if I knew I was also interested.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 8:34am
Me, if I suspect a guy might be interested and I kinda like him, too, I get REALLY nervous and shy, even if it's someone I've been friendly with before. Once those "feelings" develop, I kind of get weird. I wish it weren't so. LOL

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:22am

>There are billions of women in the world and each
>one is a unique individual; each one would respond
>in her own, individual way

And I will ask each and every one of them if I must, starting here. How would YOU react if you found out a man you casually knew was interested in you?

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:47am

Shy,

This is confusing. If countrygrlupnorth (where is your signature???) ignores me it means she is madly in love with me and wants to have all of my children. If you ignore me it means I repulse you! There are Billions of women either madly in love or completely repulsed by me :-(

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 11:30am

If I found out a man was interested in me, I would act aloof if I was not interested in him, and didn't want to encourage him in any way. there needs to be a book along the lines of "She's just not that into you," for men.

Edited 9/2/2005 11:32 am ET ET by bpang70




Edited 9/2/2005 11:35 am ET ET by bpang70
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 11:59am

>If I found out a man was interested in me I would act
>aloof if I was not interested in him, and didn't want
>to encourage him in any way

I find this very strange. A woman acting herself would suddenly act differently with a man she is not interested in after she finds out he is interested in her. BUT, if a woman is interested in a man, she thinks she needs to act differently to herself in order to make him interested in her! I read it here all the time “What can I do to make him like me?”

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 1:00pm
My signature is MIA for now. I temporarily cancelled my pay account. It will be back up within the next couple of weeks. :)

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 1:45pm
If I found out a man was interested in me, I wouldn't completely ignore him BUT I would be rather cautious towards him if I were interested just to protect my feelings as well. By being cautious, I mean I'd talk to him and sort of feel him out. I'd be very friendly towards him but probably shy as well.
If I weren't interested in him, I'd ignore him or just be platonic towards him and not try to lead him on.
However, let me think....
There are times when I would see a certain someone that I liked alot and I'd either a) hide from him and go another direction or I'd b)ignore him completely and kick myself later. Then if I'd see him again later, I'd smile and say hello and talk and be very friendly and flirty.
However, if I completely ignore him each and everytime I see him or I'm rather cold towards him or just platonic each and everytime I see him, then I'm not interested.
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Registered: 07-02-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 2:35pm
Not interested, I would think

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