Meeting men

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Meeting men
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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 10:10am

I just got out of a relationship. I know I'm not ready to move on yet, but I'm starting to think about it. I want to at least experience the dating world, seeing as my previous relationships all got serious very quickly, which means i've never dated "normally."

I'm living in a small town right now, my hometown to boot, and am not sure how to meet men. I was in the city for years and wish I was still there because I could at least try things like placing personals, speed dating or taking night classes where eligible bachelors may be. But here, there's not a whole lot of ways to meet guys.

When I'm at the bar, I feel like I really don't belong. I can't seem to attract men- usually the guys who hit on me are really seedy. The guys I do find cute often end up on the dance floor grinding girls, who are dressed like well, wearing clothes that i'd feel pretty cheap in.

Anyway, I feel like the limited bar scene here isn't going to find me Mr.Right. And I'm trying to think of ways where I can be out more- ie, going to the gym, grocery shopping, evening walks, talking to more people that i pass on the street, etc. I'm just wondering if there's something i should be doing to attract some men my way! I don't expect to meet someone perfect for me right now, I'd just like to at least go out for dinner and explore the dating world a bit. Heck, maybe I should just move back to the city!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: vgirl2423
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 11:03am

Have you tried telling people you'd like to be set up?

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Registered: 08-27-2004
In reply to: vgirl2423
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 11:47am

Vgirl- your thoughts on the grocery store, gym, walking, ect are all great ideas. There are sure to be more singles than yourself in an atmosphere such at those. As for you moving back to the city, are you seriously thinking about it for other reasons other than meeting a man? If not, I wouldn't advise it.

Another tip, you could try taking yourself to lunch. A lot of times there will be another single there. If you are able to strke up a conversation, you may want to invite him to sit with you. What about at your work place? Are there any men you have your eye on, or men that might have their eye on you? Try scoping them over a time or two. You never know who might be checking you out.

Best of luck. :)