I have a crush

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I have a crush
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 11:52am
So I'm in college, (this is going to sound really high school)....I haven't dated since I became pregnant...about 3 years now....(now the high school part), I have a crush on this guy in my Chem class. The first day, I hadn't noticed him until I felt someone looking at me, I thought he was really cute, and since baby daddy and all of that drama, I'm really picky about everything so it's been a while since I even thought somebody was cute.....and the last couple of classes he'll go and sit by me....I don't know what it is though, that I don't get asked for a phone number, or out for lunch, or something. I think we could kind of tell that we're attracted to each other, but when it comes to talking it's like we're both so shy. I for one get really cheesy at even the thought of dating someone, I guess because it's been so long...and I don't know his excuse for the shyness.....And I really don't want to ask him out, have you guys read that book he's just not that into you (lol)?! Well i guess time will tell, and if he's really into me, he'll eventually ask me out... =0)

 

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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 1:15pm
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I've had crushes too and felt there was mutual attraction as well and I was usually right. However, attraction is one thing, him having the courage to ask you out and follow through or atleast a number is something altogether different and more worthy.
Let him come after you. Sometimes I've found that the guy would never ask and I'd soon lose interest anyway and it didn't matter how hard he stared or how much he smiled at me. His forever not asking is tiring enough and I soon lose interest rather than chase after someone or be left wondering.
In otherwords, by him not asking, I assume he's either taken, not interested enough or not emotionally available.
You can help him out though by smiling at him and talking to him and making yourself approachable. If he still doesn't take the hint, then let it be. He's just not that into you. There will be others. ;-)
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 1:20pm

"In otherwords, by him not asking, I assume he's either taken, not interested enough or not emotionally available"

I definitely agree with you on this one "liyaberry". He probably has a girlfriend and that is why he doesn't approach you. If a man is really interested in a woman and he is not in a relationship he will ask that woman out. I say you try and ignore him and you will eventually get tired of waiting around for him and it won't seem like a big deal anymore. But on the brightside of things, I always enjoyed having at least one cute guy in every class because it made me look forward to going to school.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 3:33pm
Stop that "eventually" talk. If he was interested and available, he would do just about anything to talk to you in class.... (arrive early, stay late, pass you a note, interrupt the professor).
Might he talk to you one day? Maybe. Should you put anymore thought than that into it? No. If he's a nice, availble, straight man he should want to ask you out. Who wouldn't want to date a nice young woman who's presumably got her act together in raising her child and getting a good education?
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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 4:04pm

I am sort of in the same boat. There is this really cute nice guy in my English class and I really want him to ask me out but he hasn't yet and I don't know if he will cause I don't his current status. I mean we both always seem to somehow run into each other so we get the chance to chat for a few minutes fairly often.

Edited 9/30/2005 4:09 pm ET ET by lily_skywalker




Edited 9/30/2005 4:09 pm ET ET by lily_skywalker