What am I doing??

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Registered: 01-27-2005
What am I doing??
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 11:45am
Maybe I am only feeling sorry for myself and need to vent, or maybe I really do have problems. I am 28, divorced (5 years ago so seems like I was never really married). My main thing right now is I am at a dead end job, no where to advance to, I have been looking for new "better" employment with no luck. This job does pay enough to cover my bills, but I have NO extra "fun" $. I don't go out, I don't buy new clothes, I barely buy groceries and have just enough gas $ to get me to and from work until next payday. I am looking for a 2nd PT job just to get me by. I don't plan on giving up on finding a new job, I guess I just need to realize it may take awhile. I own my own home, which is probably the smartest thing I have done, and I love my home, I just can't stand the town I am in. I grew up there, and it is just a small town full of gossip and well, more gossip! I have considered putting my house on the market, but have decided to give it until after the 1st of the year to see how things go, then make a decision from there. I do the best to keep to myself only talk to family and friends, but I am feeling very miserable. I date no one, anyone that I do date has ex wives, babies, ex girlfriends, etc. which seems to cause all kinds of problems. I am choosing to be single for now so I can get to know ME all over again, and maybe learn new things about me. But then I go home to an empty home (besides my dog) who is always so excited to see me and that makes me feel better. But I hardly have human contact after I get home. It's me, my dog and the TV. Thank goodness I can go run or I'd really lose my mind. Man, am I feeling sorry for myself here or what?!! Anyone else ever been in this situation? What'd you do? Any ideas how I can get out of this rut and become the fun outgoing care free person I once was? Thanks for reading my sob story and any advise is appreciated!
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Registered: 08-27-2004
In reply to: fun76
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 5:05pm

Try taking up a hobby. Collecting something, or painting, drawing, anything like that. You say you enjoy running. Are there any other people in your neighborhood that run, walk or jog, as well? If you met someone within your neighborhood you could make a new friend. You say money is tight, so there are a few simple, yet cheap ways to stretch a buck. And hey, running and meeting new people is free. :)

Good luck.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: fun76
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:34pm

You need to set a goal and make a plan to get there.