Do you speak up or let it go?

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Do you speak up or let it go?
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:47pm

I really don't like causing a ruckus, but there are times I just get so irritated about something, I can't keep my mouth shut.

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 11:22pm

I hardly ever keep my mouth shut about anything. I have an opinion on everything and I'm not afraid to share it. My big mouth has actually gotten me into some trouble though...I'm trying to work on it. I think it's good to stand up for yourself when you think you've been wronged, but sometimes it's just not worth it. I'm learning that sometimes it's better to just be the bigger person and let things go.

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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 9:23am

I do not like being taken advantage of and will absolutely say something when a company tries to do so. I consider myself an informed consumer and advocate for myself - nobody else is going to do it. But I don't raise my voice and, no matter how frustrated I get, I never behave rudely. If I don't get satisfaction, I just keep working my way up the chain of command until someone takes care of a problem. I have rarely had something unresolved and, when I do, I just decide never to give my business to that company again.

At work, I definitely speak my piece but not until I have my arguments in line. I also try to think through the possible objections that the suits could have and come up with a solid response. Then again, I don't always win. It's the government - we are often short on money and we sometimes make policy decisions based on things besides what the best policy would be. I know when to throw up my hands and accept the nature of the beast. But that took a few years to really accept.

In my personal life, it's tougher. I rarely have problems but I remember once when my cousin (who I am pretty close with) was supposed to call me to hang out on a Friday night and she never called. My feelings were pretty hurt. She came over to my place the next day and we were laying out by the pool and I just blurted something out about her not calling. When I get emotional and my feelings are hurt, I sometimes have difficutly being able to be articulate. She busted out laughing and reminded me that I was supposed to call her when I got back from my sister's house. Oops! I am glad that I brought it up, though, becuase she confirmed that she would never do something like that to me and then teased me for weeks about it. Hehehe

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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 11:16am

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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 10:53pm

I'm the same way in that I hate being taken advantage of.

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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 9:10am
What's funny is that, right after posting this, I embarked on a Home Depot nightmare. When I went around and priced new window treatments, they had the best quote. Unfortunately, even with being the cheapest, the quote was around $700 for 3 windows. Darned ginormous high-rise windows. So the contractor they work with for installation came by and measured 2 weeks ago today. They finally called me yesterday and, when I complained about the 2 week wait, they said that it was because the contractor had been trying to call me. Which is crap - they have the same phone number as Home Depot does and they were able to reach me. So, the guy priced 2 shades for the living room (2 windows but one space) and I asked him to price it as one huge shade. On top of that, the final quote was over $800 and I said that I wanted to think about it . Then I called back and got put on hold 4 times, costing me over half an hour and then I called back and asked for the manager who just put me on hold. I finally got on their website and called their customer service department and complained about the level of service and numerous errors and got my $30 non-refundable measurement fee back. Buttheads!
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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 10:23am

Lots of companies do this. That's why we have to fight back and file small claims suits. Don't let them get away with it.

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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 11:22pm

I'm still trying to get over $700 for window treatments.