moving on with Mr. Right? i hope!

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Registered: 08-18-2005
moving on with Mr. Right? i hope!
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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 2:45pm

Hi everyone – I’ve posted here only once before but the advice I received was well worth it and well – I have another dilemma.

After 2 years of dating I’ve actually met a Mr. Right..! Things are progressing and we had “the talk” about moving forward to a mature relationship.

My problem is I’ve been dating “Mr. Right Now’s” for the past while but have one in particular that has been around for 2 years now. He knows he is NOT the only guy I see (I think – although we’ve never asked e/o).

He is the only person I’ve been intimate with over the 2 year period. We see e/o in a very non traditional way. I guess the best way to put it is that it is a “booty call” type of relationship… he calls I go… sometimes late at night.. etc… you get the picture..

He’s been away about 6 weeks now and conveniently Mr. Right came along during that time. He has called 2 times while he was away…

I want to break up with Mr. Right Now… but I don’t want to explain everything to him. Our R wasn’t serious enough that I should tell him.
I would rather just be busy when he called and not call etc.. but my gut feeling is that is not the right thing to do either…

I appreciate your advice..any advice!! He comes back next week…so I will have to do something!!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 10:35pm

First, how long have you been dating "Mr. Right?"

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Registered: 08-18-2005
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 8:55am

Tx for the advice!
I have thought about it as well and i think that i have been putting it off for too long. I shouldn't let a new relationship be the thing to make me move on from the booty call guy.. i should be able to find it within me to look for better. it's easy sometimes to let someone fill that empty space regardless of how it makes you feel or whether it's right or wrong....

the new guy and i have only been dating for 6 weeks or so... i know it's early and i am sooo keeping my eyes open...i've had really bad relationships in the past and haven't had anyone serious in 2 years!! all of it has turned me into a bit of a commitment phobe... but i'm coping and trying to overcome my fears.... !