new (again) to dating

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Registered: 09-09-2005
new (again) to dating
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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 3:47pm
This is something that I know everyone has been through, but I need your advice. My husband and I were married for 20 yrs. we have been seperated for over a year now and the divorce is in the works. I want to begin dating so here is what happened. I met a man three weeks ago. He was such a nice person and very interesting. We talked for a couple of hours and he asked me out. We exchanged phone numbers, but he has never called. I would really enjoy seeing him, but I have never been able to bring myself to do the calling. Should I wait for him to call me (he did ask me out), or should I call him? If I call him what do I say? I am afraid that maybe he has changed his mind or something. If he just lost my number he could have stopped back in at work where we met.
Please, I need advice, it has been so long since I have been in the dating game and all of the rules have changed since then anyway.
Thank you
Deb
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 11:07pm

There's nothing "wrong" with calling him, but the truth is that if he were really interested, he'd do the calling.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 6:58am

Hi Deb,

>I met a man three weeks ago

3 weeks ago and you are still waiting!? So, keen women *WILL* wait 7 days for a man to call!

I must agree with Shy. With the advent of e-mail and mobile phones the way we arrange dates may have changed in 20 years but the “rules” remain pretty much the same. The hardest part of all is asking for your number in the first place which he did and if he were keen he would actually contact you and ask you out on the date. You could try calling him *JUST ONCE* and asking him if he is still interested but I think you will be disappointed. Sorry.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 3:50pm

3 weeks ago and you are still waiting!? So, keen women *WILL* wait 7 days for a man to call!


Let's wait and see about that.