Was it a one night stand?
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Was it a one night stand?
| Sun, 09-11-2005 - 6:26pm |
Ok, here's the situation. I was out Friday night with a group of friends and ran into a guy I used to work with. I quit my job about a month ago and he was wondering where I had been. I always thought that he was cute and very nice but didn't act on it because I've just got out of a 3 and a half year relationship and wasn't ready to move on. Since I've quit the hellish job I've become a much happier person. So, we chatted and he bought my friend and I drinks. When it was closing time he asked what we were up to. My friend was waiting for her boyfriend to pick her up so I asked him if he wanted to come over and smoke a bowl with me. I didn't intend to sleep with him but I didn't want the night to be over yet. It has been almost 4 years since I was with anyone but my ex. We started kissing and one thing led to another. It was great. Before we left he asked for my number and put it into his cell phone. He gave me his and he asked if I would want to do something the next day. I said yes and he asked me again so I knew that he meant it. After he was gone I realized that I forgot a step and didn't save his number in my phone. I was so mad at myself. I didn't want him to think that I was blowing him off. Saturday night I had dinner reservations with a group of friends. When that was over I went back to the bar from the night before because he's a regular there and one of his friends gave me his number. I left him a message last night explaining why I hadn't called earlier. This afternoon I hadn't heard back from him so I decided I would call and just let him know that I don't usually bring home guys from bars and that I do like him. I left the message and told him to call me if he wants. Will he call???

>I decided I would call and just let him know that
>I don't usually bring home guys from bars and that
>I do like him.
You didn't need to say this. If he likes you he would want to see you again regardless of what you usually don't do.
>I left the message and told him to call me if he wants. Will he call???
I'd say he will only call if he wants to have sex again.
Sorry, my original post was addressing two separate issues.
1) I get the impression you felt you needed to explain to him that you don't normally pick men up in bars as if this was the reason he didn't reply to your first message. You think he's worried that you don't really like him but just used him for a one-night stand. I'm saying that you didn't need to explain this at all, he doesn't care (IMO).
2) I think he thought of you as a one night stand and isn't interested in whether you like him or not. He will call if he want's another one-night stand.
This is only my humble opinion.
I think that if he "really meant" that he wanted to go out the next day, he would have called on Saturday.
Who knows if he will call.
>BTW, I forgot to mention that he told me to call
>him on Saturday to do something.
If he was "into you" he would have told you that HE will call YOU, and he *would* call. Think about it logically-- You asked him back to your house and had sex with him. Naturally he is going to ask for your number and say he'd like to see you again because it is the "right" thing to do. Only a complete moron would say "Don't bother giving me your number because this is only a one night stand". My opinion is he isn't that into you. My other opinion is that you will keep posting here until someone says something you WANT to hear.
Please save us the pain of hurting your feelings... http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/068987474X/ref=pd_bbs_null_1/002-5270283-3985626?v=glance
you met a guy in a bar... he bought you drinks... you invited him back to your place... you did some illegal drugs... and you guys had sex.
Are you thinking this might be your soulmate?
I hate it when guys take my number and then tell ME to call THEM.