Terrified of dating...
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Terrified of dating...
| Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:02pm |
I would really like to date and meet men, but I'm terrified! I unfortunately have an std and feel truly unworthy of having a boyfriend or dating life for that matter. I didn't get it from being promiscious. In fact I've only slept with three guys. I'm assuming I got it from the third one, and either he didn't know or lied to me, but I got it. We had been dating for a while. It's the HPV virus. On a positive note, it's apparently the most common std out there and the strain that I have is low-risk; however, the consequences of the virus are genital warts and being contagious. I don't get them all the time, just when I get stressed or pay attention to my health through food and exercise. I just don't know how to deal with this. I want to date and meet someone, but the thought of having to tell them my "secret" scares me to death and so does the rejection! I don't want to be hurt and looked at with disgust. Can anyone help or offer advice?

bluefav27...
Pianoguy assumes you've already spoken to your doctor or gynecologist concerning the STD?
So your next course of action is to make FRIENDSHIPS without assuming they'll develop into EXCLUSIVE COMMITMENTS! If you let men know that you're a good person (first) without emphasizing the ailment you have, I'm sure you'll acquire a "large following of males?"
Should you decide to get serious about one...who likes you for the person you are...and doesn't appear to have a problem with the physical 'drawback' you possess...you can work on establishing a SAFE SEX RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER!
Best wishes and warm thoughts,
Pianoguy
Hi Blufav,
I like the idea of making friends first.
Myself, If I met a woman that turned out to be the "right one". I do not think I would let the other stop me from being happy.
I would research as much as possible about the condition. Knowledge is power.
I hope you can find the right one for you...
Gordon
I completely understand how you're feeling.
PG, just FYI, condoms do not prevent the spread of HPV b/c it can be transferred through skin to skin contact.
Hi cl-shyone!
Thanks for the 'heads up' on the condom issue. PG remembers reading something connected with this (in an article or two) several years ago.
Hope everything...dating and otherwise...is going well with you?
Pianoguy