A Love Triangle

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Registered: 09-13-2005
A Love Triangle
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 8:17pm

Hello to All! I am a 28 year old female and I need some advice from the "experienced" women out there willing to provide me with words of wisdom.I must say I have several of situations that has occurred over the last two years that will blow your mind completely out of its frame. I would like to begin with this : I was dating this guy (lets call him X) for about 3-4 years and he decided that he could longer carry on the relationship, after I indicated to him that I wanted more..(engagement). He then relocated out of the country, literally, to pursue his career endeavors. I was heartbroken for over 2 years with the sound of his voice saying move on with your life.

One day I met this wonderful guy (lets call him Y) through a mutual friend who introduced us. After about 6 months into seeing each other we were discussing our childhood memories and he proceeds to show me pictures of his friends from home. He pulls out a picture of his best friend he grew up with and it was the guy (X) who relocated out of the country!!! Bizarre!! What do I do? Would it be up to the gentleman (guy Y) that I am seeing now to tell him (guy X) that he is now seeing me? What is the odds of this happening to anyone? Apparently guy X never mentioned me to any of his close friends. SO WHAT DO I DO? Do you think that I will cost a friendship to be severed?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: empressjy
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 9:29pm

If you were all that important to the first guy (X), and the second guy were all that important to him, he would have mentioned you.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
In reply to: empressjy
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 2:45am

empressjy,

I would call it a love coincidence rather than a triangle. I find it more amazing that you dated guy X for about 3-4 years and never ended up meeting his best friend, guy Y. I don’t understand why a man, (be him X,Y or any letter of the alphabet) would keep his G/f a secret from his close friends. I also find it odd that the mutual friend didn’t make the connection either. If guy X was a best friend from years ago then like shy says, I don’t think the bond is strong for it to be a concern now.