Where are the good men?
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Where are the good men?
| Wed, 09-14-2005 - 10:56am |
Ok, so here I am single again. I have been single for a little while now. At first, I was not interested in really meeting men at all, but now I am ready to get back into the dating game. Unfortunately, I have absolutely no idea how to go about doing that.
I have gone to clubs and bars, but the men there seem to be dumb as rocks and are looking only for sex. It seems to be the same if you try online dating as well. Plus, the whole online thing seems alittle weird anyway.
Just looking for some advice, wondering where to find the good guys.

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I am having the same trouble although I am a male.
I have tried several things like the bar and clubs. Like you I did not find the type of mate I was looking for. It seemed like the ones I was interested in were there on the "girls" night out and not looking for a date.
I am going to try a singles group at church. It starts next Sunday and it will be interesting to see it there is a difference in the type of women avaibale.
I hope that helps...
Gordon
I know this sounds weird, but have you tried looking at the grocery store. You can always spot the single men by what they pick up. It is a strange place to look, but you may try.
Lora
>I know this sounds weird, but have you
>tried looking at the grocery store.
It's true. My shopping makes it incredibly obvious that I am single & can't cook. But I can pre-heat an oven to two different temperatures!
>And it's the ones that can't cook that
>really appreciate a good woman!
True. But the important question is:- Do good women appreciate inadequate men?
That depends on where his inadequacies lie.
I have the same problem. I am like you its so aggravating. GAHH
Though I have become a workaholic lately that I don’t have time to date anyways (not that I’m avoiding the dating scene I was promoted). Most of the guys out there are only interested in sex. I think we have the same problem. We have our vision of the perfect guy or relationship and we believe that he is out there. But we just don’t know where to look. When it takes a long time we become frustrated and want to give up.
I don’t know what to tell you. But I have come to the point where I just don’t care anymore about being single anymore. I look at it this way. If he is out there I’ll find him (hopefully we will cross paths).
If your more upset by what I have written sorry I just wanted to vent. But anyways try Starbucks. Girl sitting alone drinking coffee attracts a lot of guys. Believe me I tried. I started this only after I became a workaholic. You might want to try this. I have gained a lot ton of guy friends (FYI they are not gay, though I do have some gay friends (they are awesome) but no boyfriend. I don’t know.
Shy, dear, you read my mind. Inadequacies in the kitchen are one thing. In other rooms of the house, well...hehehe.
On a serious note, nobody is perfect and we have to accept that the men in our lives will have faults just like we do. But part of compatibility is finding faults that we can accept. I had a boyfriend who I adored and he was constantly late. We both worked in downtown Chicago and would sometimes meet on a street corner halfway between our offices. Being 15 minutes late to meet someone on a street corner in Chicago in January with a 15 degree below zero windchill can be pretty irritating. But that never realky bothered me - perhaps because I am the only punctual person in my family. He once asked why I never got angry over it. I told him that I'm not his mother or his conscience and, if he knows it's wrong and feels badly about it, he should stop doing it on his own like a big boy.
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