The Aproach & older Men

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Registered: 11-30-2004
The Aproach & older Men
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 11:39am


I Would like to know how ladies like to be approached?.
I have tried several different approaches and some work better then others.

I am an older man. I still want to have a family which means I am looking for a younger woman. When a woman catches your eye and lets you know she may be interested with a little eye contact, a few to many brushes walking past you etc... what is the best thing to do?
I try not to let anyone know where I work because that leads the convo in the wrong direction and I try not to let on about any of my financial prospects. (it just invites trouble)
What is the best course of action for meeting a young woman?
I am confident and rejection is not a big deal anymore...
Any ideas?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 12:36pm

How much "older" are you? I'm 27, and prefer to date the 25-37 range, but a little outside on either end is okay, as long as there are no glaring differences between me & the guy. (i.e., a guy's not neccessarily mature just because he's 35; but a guy who's 12+ years older than me I may have trouble relating to because a lot of my life experiences are recent, whereas, he's "been there, done that.") But what it all comes down to is attraction & how I get along with the person.

As for being approached, I like guys to just kind of talk. I'm a line dancer - I like it when guys I'm interested in get into the dancing then we can talk about the dancing. Or, like a friend of mine said once, "Just 'hi' first works for me."

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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 1:02pm
LOL...
Thanks for the smile... "Just Hi"
I cant stand the entire pick up line thing. Though it is funny...
I am 39.... I have to stop and look in the mirror to remind myself I am old. :-)
Not to say I am imature, I just don't think stting around in front of the garage is a good evening. lol...
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 2:33pm
One thing that worked for me (although I am 34, so I do not know if that is considered young)was an older man who simply said, after we had already talked for a couple hours, "I like you. Can I take you out sometime?" He also called me once or twice a week and treated me nicely which to me showed he was being sincere and not just looking for arm candy. In the end, he thought I was too immature for him, but because of the way he treated me, I was actually willing to be open to a relationship with him despite being much older than me.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 3:23pm
So you're 39. Okay, that's a start. What age bracket are you looking in? 25 & up? 18 & up? Or more like 30 & up? Just curious.

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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 3:54pm

Hi Country,
I would like 25 and older for the most part.
But these days it depends on the woman.
Getting along is the most important thing to me...
what ru looking for?
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 4:00pm
LOL Just so you know, I wasn't trying to hit on you. ;) But like I mentioned before, I look for the 25-37 age range, but because there are a lot of nice guys out there who are a bit outside that range, it's not a "dealbreaker" for me. Y'know?

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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 4:09pm
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 11:06pm

Like someone else said, just a simple "Would you like to go out sometime" after some light conversation is good.

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Thu, 09-15-2005 - 8:15am


Hi Shyone,

You are funny...
"Waited to long to grow up"
Actually I grew up in poverty...
We had to split hot dogs in half and fill up on bread, we ate SOS which was left overs cooked together and spread over bread, etc...
When I was 10 I had a shooting incident. I shot my best friend in the neck with what I thought was a toy gun.
I knew I didn't want to get married until my late 20's. And believe me I had been proposed to several times. I also knew that I would not bring a child into this world until I could provide for them properly. My wife or myself be home to take care of them. No outside untrusted people raising and molesting my kids...
I spent my 20's having fun, went into the Navy and found the guys with families were on government assistance for food. I thought no way will I raise a child in poverty.
I left the Navy in my early 30's, dealt with the shooting, married a woman that ended up only wanting money... Divorced in my mid 30's and found out I had a 9 year old son. Fought to get custody which I have. His mother is a welfare mom with a bunch of kids from different fathers.
So now I am in my late 30's, able to support a family to the standards I think are expectable and wanting to start a family.
So you can call it waiting to grow up if you want, and in ways your are right. I had to grow up enough to be able to deal with paralyzing my best friend from the neck down.
I had to grow up enough to secure a high enough position in a company to feel comfortable bringing children in this world.
I just wanted to say to you, Do not always judge a book by its cover.
Wanting a family is not an excuse to find, date and marry a younger woman. I love younger woman! As I stated in earlier I like younger woman as they are more positive about life, the future, just everything about them is incredible...

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Thu, 09-15-2005 - 8:30am

Good Morning Country,
Bella and yourself are a riot!...
No I did not thing you were hitting on me..
Hopeful, but not reading anything into it.

I think the worst pick up line I ever heard was:

Do you wash your pant in Windex?

Because I can see myself in them!

LOL... I was dieing over that one...

Gordon

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