Sick of the games! (Kind of long, sorry)
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| Sat, 09-17-2005 - 6:38pm |
So, I've had 3 different dates this past week with 3 different guys. The first one we just met for coffee, very short, I just wasn't feeling it, the guy really wasn't my type (we were talking about fun stuff to do and I mentioned how I am 2 blocks from the downtown area here and I never do some stuff around here and he said "yeah, a few blocks from my house is a strip center that has a grocery store, drugstore, starbucks and olga's right there, it's great!)...ummm okay guy, that's cool but I was more talking about places to go, like bars/restaurants/unique shops, but whatever.
Bachelor #2 we met for a drink one evening, and he was nice, it was good conversation, again, not really my type but when has my type been working for me lately? I wouldn't mind hanging out with him again but I don't really see it going anywhere, but hey, good opportunity for a friend, so I e-mailed him to thank him for the drink, nice meeting him, etc., and yeah, didn't hear back...no big deal.
Which brings me to Bachelor #3...he just moved here from Michigan a few months ago from Utah (I met him on myspace and offered to give him a tour of the city ;) and we've talked on the phone a few times, and he is always very nice on the phone, and we met for dinner the other night. I was giving him directions and he still ended up getting a little lost in Royal Oak (a city near my house, tons of restaurants) but I found him and it was all cool. So, we sat down to eat at a kind of noisy mexican restaurant, and he was getting so agitated that you could physically see it. He apologized, said he had a bad day at work and had eaten candy for the past 2 days after not having it for 6 months, okay, understandable...then he goes on to say if he's not married by the time he's 33 (he's 29 now) he's getting a mail order bride (haha) and he hasn't dated seriously in 6 years because he hates the games, etc., and I'm thinking "okay, this guy is cool, he's ready to settle down like I am, this is nice..." and by the end of dinner he had calmed down a lot, much more relaxed and he said "this is how I normally am, relaxed and laid back" and he apologized for being crabby in the beginning. We walked back to our cars and talked about doing something this weekend and he wasn't sure what he had going on but said to call him. (This was Wednesday). So, I called him Thursday to say thanks for dinner and to see if he wanted to make plans, and he said that he wasn't sure what he had going on, knew he had to work on a couple of his cars and some other stuff, but "I would like to see you"....so I just told him if he's got some time and would like to hang out, to give me a call. But it's my karmic destiny, when I want a guy to call, they don't. And he hasn't responded to my e-mail I sent back to him on myspace on Wednesday even though he's been on there every day since, and it's the fact that I had a good time with him and wouldn't mind seeing him again to see if there's potential for anything, I just have a feeling I'm not going to hear from him, and this is what I hate, because whenever I like someone, or even show an interest, it's always one-sided. I have been so BLAH about dating lately and when I do put myself out there, it's the same crap all over again...ugh, I'm just so sick of it all!
I know everyone will probably say it's my attitude, that thinking he's not going to call, well, he won't, but even when I'm my normal, funny self that everyone loves, well, I don't know..am I supposed to be a b!tch? Men seem to love that! Dating is just so frustrating....




HI there,
At least you're going on dates, lol. I've been so frustrated with guys that I haven't left the house. Went on three dates with one guy, but all arranged with other friends, no numbers exchanged, etc. Not my type, but yeah, made a nice friend.
It's not your attitude. You're doing it all right, except if I may put in my two cents, maybe you should have waited a couple days before calling him? He said he didn't know what his plans were Wednesday night, and you called him Thursday. It's been my experience (41, divorced) that guys in general don't make plans like we women do. For them it's more shoot from the hip until they're a little more sure or serious.
Maybe this guy was interested, but thought you were too aggressive? for lack of better word. He said he hadn't dated in a LONG time, so maybe that scared him off a bit. Just give it some time, maybe he will wonder where you are, why you haven't been in touch and just maybe he'll call or email you.
If not, There's always bachelor #4, 5, 6...waiting around the corner.
Maybe he's on your cruise you're taking!
Good Luck
Shimie
I'm running into the same kind of stuff lately. Even the ones who seem interested don't call back. It's frustrating, and like you, I'm really sick of dealing with it all!