help! Need to win him over!!!!
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| Sun, 09-18-2005 - 8:27pm |
Ok I've been dating someone for about a month, since I moved here. I like him. Infact, he's really the only thing I like about this place. So he told me last night he wants to date me, but he also wants to date (and do other things with) lots of other people (and I know he's at least been out with one other person).
So here's the thing, I need to make it so he ONLY wants me. I'm not going to be seeing him for over a week anyway, so there is time to put my plan into action. Here are the ideas I have, and I need more. I'm sure some of you have succeeded at this, clue me in. And guys, imput strongly needed!
1. Vamp up my health/fitness and basically lose weight. Many of you know I am big fitness enthusiast, but also on the larger scale, and haven't not looked my absolute best for about a year now. That's all going to change. I'm upping my workout instensity tomorrow (which I was planning on anyway), and the frequency ( from 5 to 7 days per week). And I am cutting my caloric intake to 1500 calories (I already eat the right types of foods). So basically my plan is to just look hot.
2. Make him jealous. I'm on match.com now, basically writing back to everyone who has written since I've been seeing him (and thus didn't respond to). I am going on as many dates as possible and tell him alllll about it!
3. Improve my skills...you know...in bed. I think I've already made some improvements. I know he had a REALLY good time last night.
4. then I have to find just the right balance of ignoring him and doing incredibly sweet things for him (CDs, cookies, etc.). You know, confuse the hell out of him.
Now I just need the rest from you!!!

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I don't think #1 or #2 are bad ideas, simply because they keep you busy and don't have anything to do with him.
Okay- do everything you want to do to win him over. Buy him flowers, make him love CDs, whatever.
If he doesn't want a committed relationship and you do, then why on earth would you beat your head against the wall trying to "win him over"? You're setting yourself up for failure by choosing the wrong partner.
The healthy thing to do here would be to walk away and find someone who IS looking for the same type of relationship you are.
And yes, I realize that *I'm* beating my head against the wall, trying to give you advice, but I keep hoping that SOME day the penny is going to drop for you and you'll "get" what we've all been saying...what can I say, I'm an optimist ;-)!!
Sheri
In his case, yes it is too much to ask.
You could do all those things and more, but you can't "make" him want only you.
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