Doing it all

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Doing it all
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 7:49am

Sometimes I wonder if I could handle maintaining a marriage and children while still having a job and doing the necessities like cleaning and making dinner.

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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 11:09am
Constantly - and that's a large part of why I am really leaning towards not having kids. My life is busy enough as it is and, frankly, I really like my unencumbered lifestyle. I can leave town when I want, sleep as late as I want, no poopy diapers. My sister is a Chemical Engineer and quit work to stay home with her kids and she is constantly exhausted without the job. No, thanks.
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 1:45pm
Well it shouldnt all be the womans job to do. The husband should help with the kids and cleaning, etc, as long as the woman is also working full time. It shouldnt be one persons job to do everything. It should be an equal partnership.
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 7:32pm

I have moments where I wonder if I want kids, but they usually pass.

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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 7:33pm

So true.

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Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:43am

Well, you are a couple of steps ahead of me. I don't, as a rule, love kids. Now, that being said, I think that my screen name shows how devoted I am to my nephews. I would throw myself in front of a bus for either one of them. My sister has always been the most important person in my life but I would have no trouble taking her down if she were a threat to those boys.

Even with that being said, they bore the heck out of me sometimes. I cannot spend hours playing with them. After about hour 2, I get very restless. I never let them sense this and shelter them from my complete lack of maternal skills, but it's there. I am sure you know how toddlers will ask you to read the same book to them over and over and over. My sister will do this with them and I get that the repetition helps them learn. But I have a rule with them. Each time we read a book, we count the time so that we all know that time number 3 is the last one. I find that I want them to take naps a lot and I just don't take the kind of joy in them that my mother does or some of my cousins do when it comes to the playing.

I am not the kind of person to get in a sandbox. In fact, it is difficult for me to make myself sit on the floor. When they stay with me for the weekend, all I can think about is them leaving and my sitting down with an ice bucket, a bottle of burboun, a pack of cigarettes, and the Bach cello suites.

My point is this - you have what I think are normal and VERY legitimate concerns about being a parent. Getting tired, being good at it, and all of that. My worries are more about them hijacking my life which I love so well.

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Tue, 09-20-2005 - 7:53pm

Hehe...


Even with that being said, they bore the heck out of me sometimes.


That is too funny.