Need help trying to get him back

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Need help trying to get him back
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 11:18pm

I have been thinking of this guy from high school lately. He graduated H.S. two years earlier than I did and he would call me sometimes. He said that he wanted to keep in touch but I would never really contact him much. I went to the same college as he did for two years and we ran into each other off an on but we never really got together to hang out, we called a few times and said we wanted to but never got around to it. I transfered to another school and I didn't really hear from him. He emailed me once while I was at a different school but that was it. I was dating someone back then. Well, now I want to contact him and be friends, maybe more.
I've been emailing him and telling him that we should get together sometime and he doesn't really email me back or he leads me on and says sure I'd like to hang out sometime but the whole summers gone by and he never contacted me. I emailed him a few weeks ago and he finally gave me his phone number and I called him. He said that hed been doing good and he has a girlfiend. why would he give me his number?
I emailed him and told him that if he ever wanted to talk and catch up about things that he knew where to find me. So I'm leaving it at that and seeing if he will contact me sometime. Who knows, I'm hoping that me emailing him will make him think of me and eventually contact me sometime or if things with his girlfriend don't work out.

Its just hard when you've had a history and great relationship with someone and then things change a little and they forget all about you.

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 11:58pm

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From reading your post I don't get how you come to the conclusion that you had a "relationship" with him. I say you let him go he is obviously not interested in starting anything with you especially by him admitting to you that he has a girlfriend. Move on!

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 3:11am

>he is obviously not interested in starting
>anything with you especially by him admitting
>to you that he has a girlfriend. Move on!

I agree.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:54am
It sounds to me like you had your chance and you passed it up. You can't help that you didn't want him then any more than you can help that he doesn't want you now. If he is doing well, don't be selfish and try to get in the mix. If you really care about him, wish him luck and set him free.
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Registered: 03-13-2005
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 10:02pm
You can't expect a guy to be ready to start a new relationship with you only when you are ready. He has already tried in the past. If anything happens, you need to build up the relationship again even if it is just friendship. It takes time. In the meantime, keep on meeting new people!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 10:22pm

He's not interested in you- at least right now- so I'd recommend not contacting him again.