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| Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:54am |
I think I might just give up! I'm so tired of being let down by men that I meet and actually have an interest in. Recently, I decided to sign up on an online dating site, mostly to check out pictures and profiles and see who's out there that's single. So, I got a few emails and I sent out a couple "winks" (which is all you can do without paying). Well, one guy contacted me and we ended up chatting on IM a few times. We decided to meet, so we met last Thursday in a public place and we had a BLAST! We were talking non-stop, laughing, had a lot in common and there was definite chemistry (I thought). At the end of the night he walked me to my car, kissed me (more chemistry) and said he'd call me. Well... it's now Tuesday and NOTHING! WTF!?!? I don't get it. Unless something's up with this guy (such as, he's married or something crazy like that), why wouldn't he call!? I mean, we had a great time! It just makes no sense to me - why do men do this?
A similar situation happened a few weeks ago - I met a guy through a friend, we went out, had a really fun time, chemistry and all, and then I didn't hear from him for 2 weeks. Then he calls and leaves me a message at like 12:30am one night (I was sleeping)... but why not call sooner? WHy wait two weeks?
I think I might just give up on men and dating! I'm so tired of being let down!
What do you make of all this!?
A similar situation happened a few weeks ago - I met a guy through a friend, we went out, had a really fun time, chemistry and all, and then I didn't hear from him for 2 weeks. Then he calls and leaves me a message at like 12:30am one night (I was sleeping)... but why not call sooner? WHy wait two weeks?
I think I might just give up on men and dating! I'm so tired of being let down!
What do you make of all this!?

Any man who calls after 12:30 (especially after 2 weeks) is only after one thing. A drunken booty call. Ignore that crap.
The dating world is full of disappointments that will never be explained. It's not fun and it often does not seem fair, but you have two choices. Either learn to accept it and try to remain yourself or start to date like a man. : )
oh the old Sex and the City idea... date (have sex) like a man! ROTFL
Cat - sorry to hear about your run of bad luck but I think Aunt Jules is right... don't let the bad ones get ya down. More than likely you are right about guy number one... there probably is a reason he's not calling - but why sit and fret over it... how about sending out a couple more winks instead!?
Sure you've felt chemistry but that doesn't mean they did and it's okay if they decide to not pursue things - just like it's okay if you meet one you don't want to pursue. Just keep going till ya find him! :)
Oh and as far as giving up... who's that hurting!? Only YOU and your love that's waiting and looking for you and hoping you've not given up! Pick yourself up and keep on keeping on for him if not for yourself! :)
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Maybe he is married or already in a relationship and is one of those scumbags who enjoys cheating on his partner. On the other hand, the "I'll call you" line at the end of the date is a very easy copout line that many men use when they are not interested. They rather say that than be honest with the woman. Don't give up, as they say dust yourself off and try again and again and again until you find the right one. You have to kiss a lot of toads to find your prince charming :)
>"I'll call you" line at the end of the date is
>a very easy copout line that many
>use when they are not interested.
I agree after a slight modification. I can honestly say that I’ve never had a bad first date but that hasn’t always lead to a second date or relationship. At the end of one first date the woman kissed me (on the cheek) and said, “Yes†when I asked her if she would like to date again but she never answered my calls. I don’t think a first date can be used as an absolute leading indicator. You will get red flags and green flags but no guarantees.
Hello pretty cat, I know what you're going through, it happens to me over and over again too. But in my case is after 2 dates, the second date is the dealbreaker, why is it like that? don't know. In my situation, I don't think much of the first date, if they contact me again fine, if not, oh well. But then they come back and start calling me and asking me out again, then I think to myself mmm, then they're interested, I'll give them a shot, so I show a litte bit more interest, set up a second date, the second goes better than the first, they keep calling, we plan to meet again for the third time and then I don't hear from them constantly like before, and then I start overanalyzing.
This is happening right now with a guy I had a blast with the first two dates, I started to like him, he's a total gentleman, has good taste, dresses nice, has great conversation, he's funny and goodlooking, and it seems he has his act together, traits I like in a man. Well, we met last Wednesday, and then he called to thank me for a nice time and to ask me again for Friday, but I had plans already, so we could not meet. But I noticed a dissapointment in his voice, maybe he sensed that I am dating others? Anyways, I gave him a choice of meeting this week instead, we have a date set up for Thursday to go to a comedy club, but so far he hasn't called to confirm. Today, I made the mistake of emailing him and asking him if he was still on so I can plan my week, right now, no answer to that yet.
Just so you know, I try to stay busy, and I AM busy b/c I am a single mom, but I am also dating other guys, so I don't put all my eggs in one basket :) So far I have a second date with another guy tomorrow for lunch, he's a sweetheart, has a great personality, very mature, considerate and patient, I have cancelled twice but he's still calling me. In fact, he's been calling me almost daily and we have such a great conversation we get along so well over the phone, but I really was not attracted to him physically, so I am going to see him again and see if I can develop a liking for him. We'll see.
As you can see, I am too feeling like giving up because I can't seem to hold onto one great guy either way. The ones I really like are not delivering and the ones I kind of like or don't, are parading on my dating life, lol..