And people wonder why I dont have friend

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Registered: 03-25-2003
And people wonder why I dont have friend
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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 5:24pm
Many people I know (some acquaintances mostly females and even relatives) wonder why I don’t have male friends to go out with or to hang out if Im a friendly, easy going, pretty lady to hang out, and indeed that is the truth, I have 0 male friends. Now Im beginning to understand the reason why I don’t have male friends something that it is not my fault. The guys I have met before, I mean former coworkers, or other guys I have run into in my life etc they just want to get laid with me, so they are not interested in really to know me as a person, they just want to satisfy their male ego by getting laid with me because Im a attractive person. I mean that is why I don’t have male friends because they only look for sex in me and I don’t want that from a guy. I mean if men only think of me for sex, how will I ever meet a good friend? If that is the case I will never ever have friends. I have more than 29 yrs old.
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Registered: 10-27-2005
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 12:34am
let me explain something to you,about men ok?and I KNOW some women,are gonna bash me for what I am about to say....
when a man is attracted to a woman..he will want to have sex with her..period...not necessarily any kind of relationshop...that may or may not coem later,it all depnds..usually when guys are older maybe 30 or more,then yes settling down sounds good..but otherwise.ok,men want to have sex with women they think are hot...you can`t,AND I REPEAT...can NOt just hang out with a guy,and think he is just going to want to hang out like friends..that is why women have GIRl friends,to do stuff with...do you not like sex,or being with men? nothing wrong with that,but are you that naive to think men just wanna hang out have a drink and not try anything?
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 3:30am

This website will explain everything:

http://www.laddertheory.com

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 7:58am
so when it comes down to it,men just care about sex,it is the number one important thing....LOL..point black...if a man isn`t trying to hook up with you,he is either gay or not attracted to you,and hell men will try evne with women they don`t find appealing esp if they are dunk enough...it is NO secret men want to lay an woman they can,regardless single or not..if you can`t deal with it,just have female friends then,don`t hang otu with guys,don`t date,that is all...YES men want sex..yes it is their top priority with a a woman..if they say otherwise they are full of crap or gay...I am never one to say give it up to whoever,but don`t hang out alone with a guy if you have NO intention of doing anything with him eps if YOU already know he wants you
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 12:18am

So you say that a woman cannot have a male friend because guys dont make friends with girls? So if I see a bunch of woman and man on a mall, to put an example, hanging out together, that means they are having sex and they cannot be just friends?

Im sorry but there are guys, that are not gays, who really become good friend with lady and there is no sex involved at all because they only intend to become good friends and they can become friends for years.

So if a guy is just hanging out with a lady is just because they are having sex not because they can be good friends and hang out (movies, bars, dance, etc)?

There are girls out there who have male friends just to hang out and there is no sex involved at all.

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 1:31am
ussually guys will want to have sex with any female they know..didn`t the original poster say any guy she tries to just be friends with wants to get laid?maybe she is doing something to lead them on too,who knows?not on purpose...but if she is attractive and what not,then gys are gonna want her..and hellwhat is wrong with that?
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 8:06am

>So if I see a bunch of woman and man on a mall
>to put an example, hanging out together, that
>means they are having sex and they cannot be
>just friends?

You don't know what the situation really is or what they are thinking.

>Im sorry but there are guys, that are not gays
>who really become good friend with lady and there
>is no sex involved at all because they only intend
>to become good friends and they can become friends for years.

Nobody is disputing that. What we are saying is *IF* the man is attracted to the woman he will want more than just a friendship.

>So if a guy is just hanging out with a lady is
>just because they are having sex not because
>they can be good friends and hang out (movies, bars, dance, etc)?

You are confusing the issue. We are NOT saying that a man can only be a friend with a woman if he is having sex with her. We are saying that a man can be friends with a woman and NOT want sex if he is NOT physically attracted to her. There is a simple test (described in the website) to prove whether this is true. Most men would fail.

Be honest starlettos, if you met a man that was really hot and had a great personality would you want to only be friends with him? Falling in love with a friend is the oldest and most common story of heartbreak in the dating world.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 7:10pm

What in the heck are you thinking?


How could anyone possibly put any value on something published on a site called "stupidness.com" and obviously written by a 12 year old boy whose only intimate relationship is with his hand?