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Speed Dating
| Thu, 12-01-2005 - 8:27am |
I've booked myself in for an event.
Does anyone have any experience? Care to share?
1) What type of men impressed you?
2) What type of 'questions' did/would you consider interesting?
3) etc

I have done a few speed dating events and I always enjoy them. They have led to subsequent dates, but no serious relationships (yet).
1) What type of men impressed you? - I was impressed with men who seemed outgoing and comfortable. Someone who seems like they have it together. Someone with a great education and interesting life experiences (travel, living abroad, etc.)
2) What type of 'questions' did/would you consider interesting? I can tell you what questions I did NOT find interesting because it seemed like 85% of these mini-dates contain them: What do you do for a living? Where do you live (not only is this asked by everyone, I don't like the idea of telling strangers)? Do you have family/siblings?
It's not that I don't think that these are important things to know about someone - they are. But I would not meet someone on the street and be attracted to them because they were an attorney who had a great relationship with their parents. I am attracted to someone at these events for the same reasons that I would be otherwise: those inexplicable chemical firings in my brain, smart, a good sense of humor.
My biggest piece of advice is to resist the urge to treat it like an interview and to relax, enjoy yourself, and let your natural personality do the talking.
Unless you are a naturally boring person who asks those kind of toast-dry questions. In that case, fake it. :-)
I attended my first speed dating event last month. It was fun, but a little stressful. It was hard to come up with something new to say when the 11th guy sat down at my table!
So, my first piece of advice: Don't make the women do all the talking or asking.
One guy turned me off so completely because he was obviously, sadly, insecure. For every questions I asked, such as "What kind of music do you like?" He'd reply with something lie, "Why? What kind of music do you want me to like? If I say one thing, you'll be turned off, if I say something else you'll think I'm weird." Seriously, every question got an answer like that one. Longest four minutes of my life. :)
The men who did impress me were the ones who were relaxed (or seemed to be), comfortable in their own skin, made EYE CONTACT (huge! do that), and seemed interested enough to ask me a question or two. It wasn't about what they asked, just that they made an effort.
Most of all, just have fun with it. Don't go expecting to meet the love of your life - just go with the idea that it will be fun and good practice in starting conversations.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I don't know that I could ever do speed dating because of my ability to say stupid things when I'm put on the spot, however, if I were I'd probably like a guy who did something to make me laugh right away.
>Maybe you could come up with something interesting
>to say about yourself first instead of asking a question
I will tell her I have a belly ache and need someone to rub it for me!
Just be sure you say "belly" and not anything else.
Hi Hal. I attended two of these. The first one was a lot of fun! The 2nd time around, I realized about half the guys there were the same guys from the first event! In any case, I did "match" with two guys the first time around, and dated both, two dates each.
I thought it was a great way to meet new people (girls too! Its good to make new single friends so you have people to go out and do 'single' stuff with - there is usually time to mingle with everyone before the event).
After the first few guys, the questions kind of went out the window. We just talked about whatever came up. The main thing I was interested in, was knowing what they did for fun, and that was the one thing I always asked. I was interested in meeting someone that shared some of the same interests.
The other thing was chemistry. You kind of get a feel for it, even in those brief minutes, whether or not there is chemistry, and how easily you talk to one another.
My advice is to jot down little notes next to each persons number, it will help you remember things about them, such as: 1. YES! Definitely! Nice looking, likes to snow ski. or 12. NO WAY! Doesn't like to _____. After meeting 20+ people, you will be glad you did this!
Good luck, and have FUN.
>The 2nd time around, I realized about half the
>guys there were the same guys from the first event!
I have a line prepared just in case this ever happens:
"I didn't think the 1st date went well so I never imagined we would have 2nd date"