Single Again...Did I do the right thing?
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| Tue, 12-06-2005 - 4:42pm |
Ok, Here is a little background, I am a 25 year old woman, I was married for 3 years, have been separated for 2 years. I had a boyfriend for 8 months but I ended that over the summer. I casually dated a few guys after that. About a month ago I saw I guy I used to think was really cute (I knew him a couple of years ago, but not very well). We ended up dating and then became boyfriend/girlfriend about 2 weeks ago. I broke up with him on Sunday, so hence the single again remark. I understand that it was only a couple of weeks, but he changed. At first he called me all the time, wanted to always hang out, told me that he really liked me so that he would make time to have me as a girlfriend, then after I became his girlfriend, then he would not call me, just call to say hi and he will talk to me tomorrow, not calling to hang out on the weekends at all, I had enough. He didn't call me Friday night or Saturday night, so on Sunday I called him and this was our 1 minute breakup:
Me: "What did you do all weekend?"
HIm: "I was waiting for you to call me"
Me: "Yeah right, why didn't you just call me?"
Him: "It works both ways baby"
Me: "Well, this ain't working for me AT ALL!!"
HIm: "What do you mean?"
Me: "You are not the kind of boyfriend I want, this is not what I wanted"
Him: "Are you sure"
Me: "Yes, I'm sure" "bye" and I hung up
I mean, what the hell, we were dating for 3 and a half weeks, if this guy really liked me he would have wanted to hang out more. I guess he wasn't ready for a girlfriend afterall. And if possible he wasn't being a complete jerk, it's still not the qualities I want in a boyfriend, it just wasn't right, I can't have a high school relationship, I want a real man who loves to see me.

You ask "Did I do the right thing?" but it very much sounds to me like you already know the answer to that. If something's not right, it's not right.
How long of a break have you taken from dating and relationships? I'm no expert but after a divorce and a couple break ups, I would think some breathing room would be in order.