I've come to a realization
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I've come to a realization
| Thu, 12-08-2005 - 9:20am |
So I've been doing some thinking about me and my singleness and how I only seem to get hit on by men I'm not attracted to.

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Hmmm, that makes me wonder about myself, too.
I was at the gym yesterday afternoon and watched a whole episode of Dr. Phil on his new book. They did all these "experiments" where they watched girls interact with just each other and noted how they acted then added men to the mix and you wouldn't believe how many girls changed how they acted. They were either trying WAY too hard or would tense up and get really quiet. Of course, this wasn't scientific but it did make me think about how I might change when someone I'm attracted to is around and not even realize I'm doing anything any different.
How do you think we can pay better attention to this?
Maybe you just need to snub all men then they'll want to approach you!
Seriously, I have the same problem for some reason.
One "tip" I heard is that you should have an opening line. Something more interesting than the weather but less intimidating than "Want to go out with me?" So I think I'll try this more often.
As for other "advice" in this post, I'm doing all I can to ignore that one. As someone who writes professionally, it's very difficult for me to take that seriously. It's an English teacher's nightmare. Yikes!
Yeah, I have the "he's-too-cute-for-you" voice thing going on, too, and I also have the "he-probably-likes-thinner-girls" voice, too.
>They said if a girl is "too pretty," they'll stay away.
I completely agree. Society seems to cater for the average. People who are "too " seem to struggle.
Of course most guys would love it if a woman approached them, it takes all the risk away and it flatters their ego. But they would still need to take the step of asking the woman out if they were interested.
Sheri
Don't forget that "ignore" button.
Yeah, they'd love it if we approached more because it strokes their egos and is less work.
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