had a date tonight!

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Registered: 08-13-2005
had a date tonight!
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 9:33pm

Well, i got back from a dinner date with this guy. Was someone i met off of a dating site- which i'm a bit opposed to (the internet dating thing) but figured it would be better than not dating at all!
The date was ok. I felt like I did everything right-asked questions, was genuine and funny. However, he was a bit of a dud. He was really cute, but he barely asked me questions and stared at me more than i was comfortable with.
However, I'm happy I was out there and did something different with my Thursday night :)

Any advice on what to do when he doesn't have any questions for you and you are left trying to make the conversation work?

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 7:52am

I've had a couple of those and they were not fun.

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 8:39am

It's good to get out there, even if it's not with a match. Good for you.

Did he pay for dinner? :)

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 9:40am

My advice is to be as pleasant as possible and end the date as early as possible without being rude. Some people say that it's nervousness that makes people clam up on the first date. Whatever. I have found that, when I have given someone boring a second chance, they have proved to continue to be boring.

Good for you for getting out there, though!

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 9:54am
I agree with the others - you did the best you could, and it is definitely good that you got out there.
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 11:22am
Yup, he did pay for dinner :) So that was nice.
Actually, we ended up hanging out after- he came over and we watched a movie. We cuddled on the couch all night, but nothing happened. Although his conversation skills weren't great, he was a good cuddler. Not sure if he's interested still. Though he did want to come over. I thought maybe he was wanting a ONS- but actually he was a perfect gentleman.
So anyway, well, i guess I'll find out if he's interested. If he's not, i won't be upset- hey, free food and a date under my belt- not too shabby! And oh, cuddling, was so nice!
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:48pm
I had a date like that the other week and could not have imagined cuddling with him at the end of the night. It drives me crazy when I have to initiate all of the conversation. I do ask a lot of questions, and I think that comes from all of the dating that I do and all of the practice that I get. I have to keep in mind that not all guys are used to dating so much and asking questions. I am giving this guy another try - we're going out tonight. So, hopefully he'll be doing more of the asking.
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:56pm
Well, I was going to say the ol' "at least you got dinner" line but it sounds like there was more to it than you originally let on.
I'm with the other poster... if I found someone to be a dud I couldn't imagine wanting to cuddle with them later. But maybe there's more to it.
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 6:35pm

I'll admit I wouldn't have expected the cuddling thing to have happened. It was definitely not in my character. But I can't quite put my finger on it. I just thought i'd go with him on not letting the evening end (it was before he came over to watch a movie that i originally posted this thread, that's why things kind of changed there).

When we were on the couch i just felt really comfortable there with him. Albeit he's not a conversationalist, but there was something comfortable about him. So, well, if a 2nd date happens maybe something is there.