Language barrier a problem when dating?
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| Sat, 12-10-2005 - 9:14am |
I met a nice guy who sat behind me at a concert I went to on Thursday. He pretended to bump into me at the end and I just said hi, how are you and the conversation rolled off from there (I glanced back at him a couple of times at the concert so I think he got the message I was interested). Even though it was late and I had to go to work the next morning, he insisted that I go to a bar with him. I said okay and we had a nice 2 hour conversation though I did not feel that kind of excitement when I meet a guy I like. Part of it was that the bar was very noisy. The other part is he's only been living in the U.S. 5 years and his English is not perfect so he finds it hard to express himself at times from what I can tell. He understood everything I said but I can see it took him a second to process what I said sometimes. Since I'm a very expressive and verbal person, good verbal communication is very important to me, plus it helps me gauge how intelligent the guy is, which is also extremely important to me.
When the night was over, he walked me to my bus stop even though his car was parked blocks away. He even offered to drive me home or get me a cab to take me home if I miss my bus since my bus stops running in the early morning but I refused. At one point in the evening, he also offered to carry my bag which I never had a guy who I just met do but I refused also since I had my wallet in it and all and he would look pretty funny carrying it, lol. When I told him earlier in the evening that I don't have the most recent album of the band we saw, he offered to give me his which I said he didn't have to. When my bus was coming, I took out my phone to give him a sign that I wanted to exchange numbers and he wanted to give me his number but I told him that I'd prefer to give him my number. I gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him it was nice meeting him. He called me 10 minutes later because apparently, he forgot to take down the last number in my phone number and he called every possible number until he got to mine since mine ends with a 9, lol. Then he told me to call him any time I want which I did not really know how to react to since I never had a guy tell me that. Then he said he will call me the next day (Friday) and I told him I'm at work all day and I can't pick up the phone, so I told him to call me during the weekend and we said good night to each other.
So what do you think of this guy? The whole thing about wanting to give me his number and telling me to call him any time I want has me confused since I'm not comfortable making the first move or having guys tell me that. Plus overextening himself with offering me his CD, getting me a cab or driving me home and carrying my bag when he barely knows me also had me puzzled. Also, the language thing bothers me a bit but I'm trying to be more open-minded and date guys I would not have considered dating at one time. We're both from Eastern Europe but we speak different native languages and since our cultures are similar, I can understand at times what he's trying to say. Does this sound like a good first meet and does he sound like a good dating prospect? Does chemistry have to be there the first meet or can it build over the next few dates? Sometimes I find that this happens but it's usually with guys who I have a lot in common with and I'm not sure if I do with this guy yet. Thanks!
Edited 12/10/2005 9:21 am ET by ising101

You really can't tell from just meeting someone once.
back to relationships, needless to say that guys really try to do their best in the first 3 months of the relationships and it's very hard to learn what they really are like. we are taking our chances every time we get into relationships. i wouldn't let all the niceties at the beginning lead me to any serious conclusions about his personality.