Flirt or not to flirt?
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| Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:33pm |
There is a guy at work that about 4 months ago asked me out, actually first he kissed me then he asked me for my number. I pulled away from the kiss and shared that I was a little hesitant. I gave him my number, hesitant to get involved with someone at work but thought it had been awhile since I had had at least one date so I would give it a shot. He said he would bring me in a coffee since I would be at work all weekend. Well he didn't bring me a coffee but brought everyone else one. He never ended up calling hence no date. There was always some excuse why he didn't call. I made a joke about never getting my coffee and he didn't think it was funny. Anyways I finally said I get your just not that into me. (I was prepared to say it seeing as I had just finished reading the book.) I was still a little disappointed though and couldn't figure out why he would ask if he wasn't going to follow through.. For a while he wouldn't talk to me and would leave me out of conversations. After a few weeks of that we were right back to normal or at least where we were before the exchange of digits. He then accidently learned I am very ticklish and then every so often he tries to catch me off guard and tickle me.
The other night we were all out at a work function... he sat next to me at dinner but wed didn't get a chance to talk until later....I confessed to him that I had regreted pulling away from his kiss so many months before and had wished I had let it go further. He told me that he was happy that his actions before hadn't made things uncomfortable since I was still happy to talk to him or go out for a smoke break with him. He said that he was still interested but that he was going to leave it to me to make the first move. He said that I might not remember in the morning since I was drinking. The following day I saw him at work and told him I remembered the conversation we had and hoped something would ensue. He said good. I said that I didn't want people at work to know and he said he didn't either. I asked him if he wanted to go out for a smoke I would keep him company. But then someone else was going out so he said for me to stay inside since I don't smoke. The next day when we were on opposite shifts I asked him again if he wanted company for his smoke before I left for home (I was hoping to get him alone so we could discuss our potential date.) but he seemed a little edgy and said oh no I better just get to work. I don't know if I am being paranoid or if he was really worried about getting started with work. But he started bringing me in coffee to work since our little discussion. It used to be the odd time when I was working when he knew I was working with his friend he would bring one. Now he brings it even when he is not working or if we are on opposite shifts he brings it in for me to drink on my way home. Sometimes I feel like he gives me the brush off but I know I do the same to him. Especially since one of my guy friends at work really doesn't care for this guy and doesn't want me getting involved with him. Part of me brushes him off so that people don't get suspicious and so that my other friend doesn't get upset with me for getting involved. How do I know if he is doing it for the same reason or if I am really getting the brush off?
But at the same time this guy seems to know how to lay the moves on that leaves me either wanting more or with my head spinning. Or when I think he is giving me the brush off he will place his hand on my back or leg as he is talking to someone else. He just seems to know how to casually place his hand on my leg when we are talking and leave it there, or brush up against me or run his hand down my back. But it's just so casual. Or he gives me these looks that either make me laugh or giggle rather or have to turn away. The other night when we were at the party talking about the current situation he put his hand on my leg just so....when we are talking I thought I could say right now lets go. How do I do the same to him? Does anyone have some really good flirting techniques to get the guy spinning?
