When it rains it pours...

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When it rains it pours...
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 1:48pm
So...my bf breaks up with me. Okay, I handle that. I'll survive, move on, have some new adventures.
Then my car starts breaking. Okay, I'm going to scrounge the money together to get it fixed... Stupid car.
Now they are doing layoffs here at work and no one knows who is staying or going.
Someone show me the silver lining, I'm not seeing it.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 1:56pm

You sound exactly like me a year and a half ago! I had so many bad things happen in a row that it started to become funny it was so sad (breakup of 5-yr LTR, lost job, had to leave grad school, had 10 cavities, etc.)

I'm not sure there's a silver lining when you're right in the thick of it. It just sucks. Later, when things calm down, you'll be stronger and know yourself really well. if you can survive these things, you can survive anything!

I know that sounds really cliche and probably not that helpful. Just know that this too shall pass.

Keep reminding yourself of how strong and wonderful you are. No matter what happens with the job, relationship, car, etc. - those things don't define you. What makes you *you*, nobody can take away.

Warm thoughts,
TG

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 2:21pm
Aw, man.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 2:42pm
Life can be a pain in the rear sometimes, that's for sure. That does suck but it sounds to me like you're the kind of person that handles it. Instead of just letting it loom you actually take some action and either do something about it or learn to live with it. These are things you can't do anything about so it's good that you're just learning to accept it and deal with it. When it gets really hard (like now) and you feel like you can't possibly handle another thing, just remember how you're handling things now. Intelligently, rationally, with strength and one thing at a time. Hang in there.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 3:43pm
Thanks guys.
Fortunately, about a month ago my doctor put me on anti-depressants for my anxiety attacks, so it's keeping my emotions in check or I would probably be a big mess. Not that I want to stay on them for the long term, but I was having attacks so bad that it was making me sick.
I talked to my boss and she said that there isn't a big probability that we will be affected by the layoffs, not that she can be sure. But I think we will be okay.
I appreciate the warm thoughts and words of encouragement!
~Chloe
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:01pm
I'm not the best at seeing the silver-lining in my own life- but I always see it in other peoples' lives. In this case, just remember that change comes in mysterious ways. Maybe this is the universe's way of telling you that not only was your bf wrong for you, but maybe you've taken a wrong turn in your life and things are trying to straighten out in some way.
Give it time- the layoff may not even happen. If it does, you are a smart, capable woman who is worthy of great things in her life. You WILL pick up the peices and get back on track, to something so great that you didn't see it coming.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 10:37pm

Yep, life sucks sometimes.


I just try and look at it as an opportunity.