Land of Long Lost Men

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Land of Long Lost Men
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:53pm

I had two funny experiences within a couple days of each other, the first was when I back to Atlanta this weekend and was at a party and I notice there is this guy there that I had talked to last Halloween. I was with someone so I just sort of passed him by but he came up to me and apologized for not calling me back and explained why (death in the family) and how after a week and a half had passed after we exchanged numbers he thought it would be too late so he just never called. I told him that was fine, no hard feelings and we talked for a few minutes and then I went over to talk to some other folks. I got the feeling that had I not been with someone that night we may have started talking again.

The second was this morning I get an email from a guy I had a few dates with back in August, I liked him a lot and then he basically dropped off the face of the earth and I hadn't heard from him in four months so you can imagine I was surprised to see an email from him. He apologized and said it was bad on his part that he never called me again, he had some ex girlfriend drama going on (one of those dumb on/off things). Long story short, I am moving back to Atlanta next week so he may meet me out for a drink this weekend. To be honest I don't care either way, I don't have any hard feelings towards him and we had a good time together so I thought it would be fun to catch up.

Just thought it was funny that two guys who sort of dropped off the face of the earth suddenly reappeared and both remembered and apologized for their actions. Sometimes it isn't us or because they're "just not into you", sometimes life just happens and sometimes it's just because the guys are being morons :-)

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:19pm

Yes...that can happen, but in my experience these guys almost always end up disappearing again.

The fact that they both apologized and offered reasonable explanations is good...but I would be extra skeptical of both. It's possible that they weren't that into you at the time (the operative word being *that*), and that this time, once they spend enough time with you to get to know you, they WILL be that into you.

But I do believe in second chances IF they apologize and have a good explanation...I'm actually going out on NYE with a "ghost" (as we call them on the online dating board) who reappeared and asked me if he could take me on a dinner cruise. I'm like, sure, why not! But he will have to do a lot more than that to make it up to me and for me to consider dating him regularly again. I'm looking at it simply as a good time for NYE...not counting on anything else, since he's already shown himself to be a flake once ;-)!

Sheri

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:23pm

I think men get the holiday blues, too, and start thinking about their missed opportunities.

I'd assume that's the case with someone who e-mailed me after months.

Does it feel nice to at least get an apology from these two guys? I think that would feel pretty good. At least gives you the chance to think, "Ha. Your loss."

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:45pm

I'm not putting stake into either of them, I think they were both genuine though. I'm only meeting up with the second guy because I think it would be fun to hang out with him again before I leave, not because of any expectations. The first guy I mentioned is sort of in my circle of friends back in Atlanta so I'll see him again, I don't think anything would happen though.

I mostly just thought it was funny and really random, especially the one today.

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 6:30pm
Movie back to Atlanta? How come? - If ya don't mind my asking, that is.