Why does he flirt, then back off?
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| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 4:25pm |
I was hanging out with a bunch of friends including this guy I think is really cute. I asked him if he wanted me to show him a card game, and he said sure, so we started playing. He instantly starting flirting with me and I flirted back. We were really enjoying ourselves. Out of nowhere, he started staring into my eyes and wouldn't look away, so I laughed and whispered, "What?" and he didn't say anything and we continued playing the card game. He did that twice! The next day, he barely talked to me (he would only talk to me if I started the conversation).
Why do guys do this? They flirt with you and make it seem as though they're interested, and then the next time you see them, nothing? (NOTE: there was no consumption of alcohol before/during this incident. And he doesn't have a girlfriend, and he knows I know that.)
Thanks in advance for any help.

It's too early to read anything into it. Some people will flirt with anybody. This is not to suggest the guy isn't interested in you, but maybe he wants to enjoy the flirtation period a bit longer. It's fun after all.
The fact that it's frustrating to you indicates that you want something more, and soon, whether from him or someone else. If it's a boyfriend you want and he's not going at your speed, then stop trying to read him and move on to someone else. If you really care about getting a reading on this guy, flirt back as much as possible, make a move (if the setting is right and it feels comfortable) and see what happens. When a man is attracted to a woman, he won't push away her advances. Just don't go overboard or come across as desparate or reckless.
In general though, when I find myself in this situation, I just tell myself the guy is just a flirt and it's me he's really into. This helps me to take my focus off him and go back to being my fabulous self. : )
LOL, all I have to say is when women pull the eyes thing with me it's over. I'm done and I think it's all good until recently. I wasn't aware of it at first but I guess she was just toying with me although... this may not end the same way in your situation. I dunno of many guys that do that unless they're pretty real about it.
I've had a few problems where, apparently I do the same thing without the eyse thing. Hmmm, recently I've done it enough where guys are telling me... "dude, stop acting like you're interested". I've gotten about 5 girls to give me their number and I just sit there shocked as can be. I do it because usually they're the shy ones and no one is talking to them, something of the sort. Most recently I've used the "I'm seeing someone" card cause I am simply not interested sometimes. For some guys it's a game... for other's they have no clue what's going on. I'd talk to you if I was interested just sometimes you can't take every conversation you can get...