In a funk

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In a funk
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:13pm

I hate stupid holidays that revolve around kissing.

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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:28pm
Big hugs to you cl-shywon. It is hard at this time of the year for all of us singles. I think once February passes then we are in the clear and don't have to get depressed about the holidays anymore and maybe by next Christmas we'll have found him. We just need to remain positive. I hadn't kissed anyone on New Years for 5 years now because I was either single or travelling without my boyfriends and usually I was one of the few or the only one that didn't have someone to kiss of the people I was hanging out with. Just know that you are not alone in this and remember that some of the people that do have someone to kiss are not happy in their relationships so it's all an act anyway. Try to stay positive and have fun anyway. At least with us singles there will be no drama, no fights, no expectations for the perfect night with our SOs etc etc.
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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 12:06am
I am in the same boat as you....no one to kiss tomorrow night, but you know you're right....NO DRAMA!!! I love that part!! As much as I would love to have that special moment, I'd rather rock in the new year without any drama....that would be amazing!!! Much love and one of my best friends tells me this all time (she is in the same boat)--"We're going to be ok:) " Hope it somewhat of a help!
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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 2:57am

Know what you mean... I decided to volunteer for a midnight run that will benefit Portland schools. I see it as a way to give back and be with a bunch of people in a group having fun for a good cause.

I never liked Valentine's Day ... in or out of a relationship. I view it as an artificial holiday for the card, candy, flower industry. I show my love on all the other days of the year.

Take care and Hugs
Mark

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 9:32am

I couldn't have put that post better myself. I feel the exact same way and when I feel like that, the last thing I want to do is go out and be around people. I'm not doing anything tonight, just staying home with my family because everyone is paired up and doing something with their SO. I don't like going out alone (especially to a New Years party) where I don't know people, I'm finding that I'm being disappointed by people in my life, and that just makes things even more depressing.

So if we're going to be in a funk, why not be in one together?

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 9:57am

I do understand how that feels. In my opinion, though, most holidays are made for couples in one way or another. That's probably because I believe it's a world made for couples. Somehow, they are the majority.

Saying that so matter-of-factly makes me a little nauseous but I guess that's just how I'm feeling this year. Through no effort of my own, I'm just letting the whole thing go by in some odd state of acceptance. This probably isn't the same thing you're feeling, but I suppose it's a different kind of funk.

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 12:26pm

It is nice to know I'm not alone in how I feel.

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 12:32pm
Don't apologize, Shy, we all have those days. New Year's doesn't bother me because I don't think it's a real holiday anyway, but I am so with you on the Valentine's Day stuff. I am actually glad that I will be traveling for work that week in February so I don't have to sit in my office suffocated by the funereal smell of flowers sent to women in the office by their husbands and boyfriends.
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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 1:40pm

I agree with Jules, I don't really think of New Years as a holiday either. Plus holy hell, the stuff to do is damn expensive, even if its sold in pairs!! And I never liked Valentines Day, relationship or no...when I was in the relationship, it was so typical and just like everybody else. And when I wasn't, it was all about the other women I worked around that got the flowers and candy. Flowers die, candy makes you gain weight...I'll pass thanks.

My one male friend called Christmas, New Years and Valentines the Singledom Triumvarate of Hell. I agree, singledom could be replaced with Coupledom too at times. its a lot of pressure for the attached too...its all Hallmark trying to sell their product of love.

Rubyshoes




Edited 12/31/2005 1:44 pm ET by rubyshoes03

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 2:08pm

>So if we're going to be in a funk, why not be in one together?

I'm in!

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 5:16pm

Disappointed as in always being "forgotten" about because they are in relationships. One of my friends just got married (her second time) and when she was married to her first husband, we always were hanging out, but now, it's just different. Once a month she has a game night and they rotate houses, and this month it's at her house. I asked what it was and she said "oh, it's something that the mommy group does" (it started with a friend of hers who has a child but my friend doesn't, but I guess she's included because they're friends, etc.) but I have yet to be invited over there for dinner or just to hang out with her and her husband, yet they're always doing stuff with other couples.

And they wonder why I'm slightly bitter??? How would you feel? It's like "oh, sorry, we can't hang out with you because then it will be an odd number".

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