I had a date...

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Registered: 11-17-2004
I had a date...
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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 9:32pm

Well, I wasn't exactly looking forward to going to Buffalo Wild Wings (BW3) for my "date" tonight, but thought "hey, they have good chicken, why not...". Well, the guy I went out with called me at 5 just to make sure we were still on and then says "okay, well I'm going to eat some dinner".

Okay...so we're just having a drink I guess...no big deal. I got there, introductions were made and his attention turns back to the big screen tvs that are surrounding us. We're making some small talk, I mentioned how nice the HDTV screens are and he says "yeah, I'd like one but I'm not going to spend my money on something like that".

Okay...maybe he's thrifty? He then says that he doesn't see himself staying in Michigan forever, and "I'd never buy a house here". Dude, don't trash my town, I live here and I don't like it people talking trash about it. He's from Wisconsin and thinks people can be snobby here like they're from the East Coast...yes, he said this. And his job is satisfying enough and pays so he can travel.

Okay...so he likes to see the world, I'm down with that.

The best part? It either had to be when he said "so, how long do you think you'll live with your parents?" It took everything I had not to say "oh, until I find a rich, attractive, well hung man that will buy me a widescreen HDTV" but I explained that I don't want to buy a house until business is steady enough to afford it and not worry...OR when he decided that it was time to leave, and oddly enough, it was right when halftime (or whatever it's called in basketball) started. Coincidence? I think not!

Yes ladies, it's just SO attractive when a guy pays more attention to the Detroit Pistons then the woman he is with...on a first date.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: rebainmi
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 10:05pm
Ha, ugh, what a dud! Oh well, did he at least pay? And you can chalk the date up to some more experience and another example of what NOT to look for in a man.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: rebainmi
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 10:21pm

Oh, that sounds like a lovely time.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: rebainmi
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 11:14pm

Wow, how did you keep your hands off that one? What a charmer.

Beer, basketball, hometown-bashing and judgement... the only thing missing from completing first-date disaster is a good ex-girlfriend story. :-)

What did he say when you said goodbye? Was he at least polite?

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Registered: 12-23-2005
In reply to: rebainmi
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 11:20pm
Now you know where they got the saying you have to kiss a lot of toads... He sounds like a real sweetheart. Better to show his true colors on the 1st date so you don't waste your time on a 2nd.
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Registered: 11-17-2004
In reply to: rebainmi
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 8:01am

I would consider polite to at least walk me out, if not to my car, but I came in the back door and he came in the front door, so I guess it was too much effort for him!

He said "thanks for finally coming out" because he has a habit of asking if I want to do something, at like 10pm that same night (when it's 9pm when he asks). He said "I never plan stuff, too much effort". Well honey, I'm a planner.

Ugh.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: rebainmi
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 8:45am
I understand the 'ugh'. You make yourself go because you have to at least try, "just in case". I know it's little reassurance but it's better you know who he is now.
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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: rebainmi
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 1:58pm
I so relate to the idea of making yourself go out. I do that so I can at least feel like I am being a little proactive about my dating life. And sometimes I have a genuinely nice time even if there isn't a connection. But these kinds of dates make my pajamas, sofa, and DVD player look more and more attractive.
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Registered: 08-27-2004
In reply to: rebainmi
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 2:14pm

* I never plan stuff* I have heard that line more in my life from men then I care to. I find it pathetic. And, like you, I'm a planner.

A date a BWW huh? Been there, done that. Men suggest that place simply so they can watch their sports, and still do the date thing. Shame shame.