Liar. Or is he?
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| Wed, 01-04-2006 - 2:15am |
So this is my story:
Just over half of a year ago I had a crush on a coworker of mine, we'll call him Bob, haha.
So Bob and I went to a movie, keep in mind that he was quite a lot older than me, and we ended up doing some very innocent hand holding but I took this as a sign that he liked me. I asked him about it a week later, after hearing nothing from him, and he said he wasn't interested and that I'd asked at a bad time. This confused the hell out of me but I attempted to move on. He eventually became a complete a s s h o l e and made fun of my girlish crush quite openly with everyone but most specifically another coworker, we'll call him Jim.
Bob eventually moved out of town and I am very much over him.
A few of weeks ago we hired a trio of new guys who ended up being close friends of Jim. I liked one of the trio, let's name him Gary, in a strictly conversational way. Jim seemed to pick up on this and began hitting on me, I was convinced he was joking, for about a week. Gary told me numerous times that Jim was not joking and actually liked me. I was like "you're both effing liars" but had completely forgotten that Jim and Bob had even been friends so long ago.
So Jim asks me to the movies. I figure this is another game but end up giving him my number. It soon dawns on me that Jim was Bob's old buddy and I become even more paranoid. The movie idea never goes through.
At a party only last Thursday, Jim is around me all night attempting wildly to get my attention. He has his arm around me for most of the night and, since I'm mostly drunk, I don't fight him too much. He kisses me a few times but the party soon ends.
On my way out, one of the other members of the previously mentioned trio, we'll dub him Dan, asks me to come over to Jim's house and watch movies blah blah blah... I finally agree.
At Jim's, drunk Dan makes a million comments about the prospect of a threesome. I'm laughing and say no no no, Jim sticks up for me and Dan eventually leaves. I spend the night. Jim says a million cutesy romantic things that I feel have a lot of significance. He offers to make me breakfast in the morning. We only make out and I let him go up my shirt.
Morning comes and I mention the breakfast thing, jokingly. He replies that "Breakfast is only for girls who put out." He's a silly guy so I don't take it too seriously. Then Dan calls. When Jim gets off the phone he says "So, about that threesome... I mean you wouldn't have to have sex with us both but..." I tell him I'm leaving he momentarily attempts to hold me back but I go to the door. He hugs and kisses me goodbye. Lost yet? It doesn't make sense...
At work, Gary tells me that Jim still likes me and wants to ask me out. That was 3 days ago I think. I saw Jim tonight and he said nothing.
My thoughts are:
a.) this is a joke to mock the Bob thing
b.) Jim's actually a decent guy who feels bad about the whole ordeal
c.) I overanalyze things and Jim was just out to get some and when he didn't he stopped caring.
HELP

I choose C.
Usually the most obvious answer (and usually the one we want to be wrong) is the right one.
I'd stay out of the company ink for a while.
I'm guessing that you don't want a relationship story that starts with "Well, I dated Bob from work, Bob blew me off, a few months later I spent the night at Jim's place, got offered a threesome with Jim and Dan and never really knew if any of them liked me..."
I'd say you were absolutely right...
But we're going steady now :) I'm thrilled. Things worked out fabulously and I'd explain it all but no one is as fond of a happy ending as a train wreck beginning. Thanks for all of the advice though, ladies.
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Happy endings are always good...gives the rest of us single gals some hope :) *hint hint prod prod*
Hehe... well in that case... and since I'm dying to talk about it anyway... it goes something like this:
-Jim asks me to the movies
-I accept and things go really nicely, I spend the night at his place INNOCENTLY, hehe.
-Dinner plans arranged for Saturday
-Get brutally blown off for dinner (he apologized profusely and feeds me apparent bs about being in a bad mood)
-Get a phonecall on Wednesday (I hadn't even given him my home phone number, he looked it up at work because he wanted to apologize) asking me to reconsider and if he could make it up to me.
-On Thursday I discover that the apparent bs was really the truth!
-Hang out with him non stop from last Thursday until last night, deciding on Saturday to be a couple :)
It's all a bit quick, I'll admit, but things have been off and on for nearly a month anyway and it feels really... right. We'll see what happens though, I'm not exactly good at putting my heart on the line like this so I hope he doesn't disappoint :).
AWW Linli that's great! And nice to know he kinda 'fought' for you too! Keep us (or at least me) posted I love hearing how things work out.
I totally understand about almost dying to spill the details, anytime I've ever met a new potential guy I always just wanted to tell everyone....not that everyone wanted to hear mind you!! Whats hard about that though is that my best friend of like 20 years (we;ve been friends since we were five) has never had a date let alone a boyfriend, so I try not to bring things like that up around her because she gets really uncomfortable (she's so insecure, especially about her weight and its sad because she's so wonderful).
But I digress.
Hope things stay well!! *fingers crossed*
I really appreciate the interest as I'm pretty certain my friends are going to start wearing earplugs.
I know exactly what you mean about the insecure boyless best friends. My two closest girls are both slightly overweight and completely consumed by the dating game and their lack of luck. It's hard to be happy for yourself sometimes.