He does not stop calling!
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| Fri, 01-06-2006 - 10:37pm |
this is a weird thing hapening to me.
about 16 months ago I moved to a new city and met a guy through a friend. I was engaged then and the guy knew that. I did not like his company and decided not to contact him anymore. Later on I broke up with my Ex and changed my phone number. for a year I havent heard from this guy. Then one week b4 Xmas he calls me at work and tells me he s been wondering what happened to me and how come somebody else answers my phone.
I told him I changed my number and gave him the new one hoping that he wont call often.
But boy was I wrong!! He started calling me everyday. At first I used to answer but then I got fed up and annoyed and sick of making excuses why I cant see him so I stopped answering. He moved to calling from private number. and still I would not answer. He leaves me messages with a blaming tone saying that whenever I have time to chat to call him. I never call back but he still calls.
I m not sure how to handle this. It is been the case for about 10 days now that he calls without me answering. Once he called me from his work number and I answered so I said sorry I m busy I gtg and call you later and never called.
So I dont understand why he does not get it. It is simple enough that I dont like his company. I would like to avoid confrontation with him kuz we have a common friend and I really like his friend (he is his best friend) so I dont want to upset the friend! but cant stand his calls anymore!! He calls everyday at 6:00 pm and 10:00 pm!! He drives me nut!
sorry for the long post I m just soooo fed up with this sh!t!

If you want this situation to go away, you need to not act cowardly, but rather be direct with him. Tell him you're sorry, but you'd rather he didn't call. If he asks why, you don't have to give him a long reason, nor allow him to attempt to talk you out of it. Just say it's what you prefer. And stop lying to him and telling him you're going to call him. Just put an end to it period.
do what i did. I asked my x-bf to stop calling me period. That did not work. so, i made a complaint to the local police in my town. The officer had me come down and file a complaint and then right in front of me HE calls this X-bf of mine and talks to him telling him to cease the phone calls or HE will personally on my behalf file "Herrassment by Communication" charges against him.
I have not received a call since...
Course u can also do call block. When you use the phone companies call block option it is great. YOU never get a ring when that person is trying to call you. They hear a ringing...but it continuously rings and they think you ain't home.
IF he starts to show up at your doorstep ya better file a pfa due to staulking you...KEEP A DIARY LOG of everything he does, says, times, dates, duration of call/visit, what you said to him so u have written proof when filing staulking charges.
print this out for your files/logs for you info. it may come in handy for you.
good luck. Please be honest with your self about what you want from him. If you truly do not want to be bothered by him..be honest with him as well. honesty can hurt..but its better to be honest and have feelings hurt than to have a staulker physically hurt you because they claim "you led them on and you wouldnt be talking to them if you did not like them" . BE SAFE.
I met a guy out one night and we had good conversation etc, so we exchanged numbers. He called me on my way home (not terrible but it was kind of anxious I think) and he tried to convince me I should have stayed with him instead of driving home (that was really annoying). Basically this guy called me, no joke, 13 times over the course of two days. Like another poster said, you do have to be blunt because these guys usually have some sort of ego thing going on, nobody normal is going to call someone they don't know that well that many times and I don't think it's being "clueless" either. It's just being wierd.
This guy, like yours, started leaving me crazy messages and then finally he said that he guessed I was going to stand him up since I wasn't returning all of his phone calls. That was it for me so I left him a nasty text message saying he had called me so many times I thought he was just $%&# crazy and for him to leave me alone. He called me back after that (probably to say something nasty to me) but I just deleted his message without listening to it and I never heard from him again.
So, yes, you do need to be somewhat blunt with this guy. Maybe you could call the friend (the one you like) and explain the situation a little bit before you say something to the wierdo if you value that friendship. Chances are your friend probably won't be shocked by this guy's behavior if he knows him, it probably isn't the first time it's happened ya know?
People do things because they get something out of it- no matter how small.
The good thing is he does not know where I live and since I met him only 3 times a year ago chances are he doesnot know even how I look!! I dont remember his looks.
I just wanted to avoid being rude especially that he did not mention dating or anything of the sort. He just suggests going for coffee to catch up... I wont call him but next time he calls I will tell him listen I m busy with my life right now so stop callin me if I get free time I will call you.
Do you plan on calling him?