UPDATE:going to court this week

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UPDATE:going to court this week
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Tue, 01-10-2006 - 3:51pm

THE LORD has answered my prayers that the bastard would agree to plea bargain so i would not have to go through verbal memory repeats.
ok so let me set you up for the day. it was awesome. NO SNOW...NO RAIN...JUST alternations of sun, 50 degrees outside and cloudiness. A lady from my church offered to go with me and drive. what an angel to have with me. Over the past 6 months over done so much healing and changing. I changed my hair color and went short legnth. I began to pray for the bastard that he would be enlightened by the spirit and God to own his wrongdoing to me. and that is exactly what happened. no jury...just a plea bargain judge and it was glorious.

The victims advocates didnt even receognize me from the countless other times i had been to the courthouse up to september of 2004( i carried blonde long hair and was angry and scared of that a-hole). They had complimented me on the way i had carried myself coming towards them. They said that didnt even know it was me till i spoke to them. I was so ready to kick butt that morning. The state trooper and my lawyer also did not recognize me and they also complimented me and said i was glowing with confidence.

In the courtroom i sat on my attackers side...5 rows behind him(two behind his wife and his mom). With bible in my hands and reading psalms 25 thru 34 i was waiting turn till my lawyer got to my case...she saved it for nearly last. (OH DA PRESSURE), but she was smiling at me because she knew i had come a great way since last year).
ok...so we finally get to my case and my attacker looks back at his wife and spots me. omg i looked his square in the eyes and i just nodded my head at him. I had no fear.
he had a look of disgust on his face and looked away.
he moved up to the HOTSEAT near the judge.

My lawyer proceeds to tell the judge that I am in agreement to a plea bargain and she continued on to say that she felt it to be in my best interest for that because of the positive changes made by me for me and she added that i left the attackers brother which was part of my issues and understandably so since they looked so much alike. She said that i had morfed from the victims walk to the survivor strut and carry myself with dignity and pride and am living well. (i heard a scoffing from my attacker when she said that).

The judge then says to my lawyer..."is she in here today?" and i spoke up..."yes your honore i am ". he has me raise my right hand and i say under oath i am in agreement with the plea bargain. He then proceeds to ask my attacker about 8 questions concerning the events that took place that night and how he pleaded. I was crying as i heard the voice of my attacker all over again, BUT, i was at peace and happy as i heard him claim guilt to beating me, threatening more harm to me and that he forced me to have sex with him against my will. When it was all over...he, my attacker and his lawyer are walking back towards the back row where i was sitting. I looked straight at him and smiled at him and said "GOD be with you", as he passed right in front of me without even a look at me. HE knew he had been beat by me and he could not face me.

He now will be sent to the state pen to face state parole baord for violating his parole. so i will be writing a letter to the board asking them to not be leanient on him whatsoever. i pray they throw the book at him. I no longer have to see his face or hear his voice.

Victory by the graces of the power of the lord. I lifted this issue up to god so many months ago and it was over teh xmas holiday season that i began to feel peace entering me and confidence gaining. Thank you , all of you who have prayed with me and for me during this trying time. I am a soldier of god and have helped god strike down another work of the devil. God is good,all the time. All the time, God is good.

The best revenge is LIVING WELL and that is what i began doing over these past 6 months.

i leave you all with a smile, a dance of joy, and a thank you.


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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 4:47pm

That's wonderful. Good for you, and much luck to you. May you continue to radiate that confidence and continue to grow and move forward.

Thanks for sharing your story with us.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 6:01pm
I am jubilating with you! I am so proud of you and glad as to how far you've come. I am very happy that amidst such horrible situation, you've managed to arise with music in your heart. Keep up the good work and stay strong.