So the meeting is today...

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Registered: 09-01-2005
So the meeting is today...
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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 11:50am

A few of you will remember my post a few days ago about guys 1,2 &3. Well, tonight I'm meeting 3 for dinner and I gotta say, I'm a little nervous.

I've never been an online dater and I can't even remember my last blind date. So my question is, how do you deal with the nerves? Maybe once you've done it a few times it's not so bad but what about the first time meeting someone you've never done anything but email and talk on the phone with? Is it like any other date?

Thanks, my evermore experienced message board pals. :-)

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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 12:09pm

How I approach all my dates is not to have an attachment to the outcome. I say in my profile is that I don't come with expectations but with hope. Someone told me that the definition of expectations is resentment waiting to happen.

I look at different ways of "doing" a date. One way is to find out more about the person. Two, seeing the other person as just another friend (so I can be myself, relaxed)and just have fun.

Also for any nerves or stress, I practice my deep breathing (yoga, meditation technique).

Mark

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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 2:33pm
I don't do much online dating but haev always felt that the first date is equally exciting and nerve wracking, no matter how we met. Keep us posted and have fun!
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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 2:35pm

I jump up and down a lot.

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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 2:42pm

Thanks to all for the opinions/advice. I'm not as nervous as I was first thing this morning, so that's good. I talked to a friend about it and that helped. There's really nothing completely awful that could come of one dinner, so that's reassuring.

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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 2:51pm

Exactly.

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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 4:01pm
Thanks again for the reassurance. I think the weirdest part will be that first "do I recognize this person" part.
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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 4:45pm

The easiest way to avoid that is to get there early and be the one waiting.

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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 9:30pm

Alright, so we met. We had dinner, then coffee (tea, actually) and good conversation.

No initial sparks/butterflies but very comfortable. I'd go out with him again.

All in all, it was a good experience. I'm glad to have met another person and it's no longer weighing on my mind. It's good to just have a good date under my belt after several bad ones.

Thanks again to all for the comforting words of advice!