Is it wrong?

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Is it wrong?
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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 10:04am

Ok gals... so a strange thought occured to me last night. I was out with a few friends and this guy (a friend of a friend) was there who I've met in the past. There's really never been an atrraction there and I wouldn't date him for several reasons (#1 being he dated another friend of mine and I'd never do that to a friend) but I still wondered if he was interested in me.

Later, my friend told me he'd asked about me and she shut him down for me (knowing I wouldn't date him) which is a good thing. What struck me as odd though was that I liked hearing that. I liked knowing that someone was interested in me eventhough I'd never date this person. I wouldn't ever do anything to make him think that but if he were to flirt with me in the future, it would still be an ego boost.

Does anyone ever feel that way? It feels so wrong to be 'using' that as an ego boost and yet, I like it.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: lesleylou
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 11:17am
I think its ok and human nature to be wanted even if it is by someone we dont want. I've done it in the past...who hasnt? Being desired feels good esp. when its been a while since the last compliment or date! lol
I would say just dont get too into it and use this guy for "compliment fishing" but take it for what its worth cause I'm sure you a hot mama anyway!!!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: lesleylou
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 2:55pm

I'm going to tell you a secret.


Every man wants me, he just doesn't know it yet.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 7:07pm

LOL! Good point!

**I think men probably feel the same way, although I don't know that any would ever admit it!**

I know even less that would refuse it. :-)

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Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 9:00pm

Haha, we live in the same dream world! I swear every man wants me to. I can't even walk down the street without feeling the gaze of their eyes on me ;)

I do agree- we all want to feel attractive and desired. It's especially nice to hear it instead of just dream it. I went on this date with this guy last night and he was a complete loser. I of course will not go on a 2nd date and am going to chalk up this bad date to a learning experience. But the main reason I accepted the date? He came up to me and said I was sexy. I felt so complimented and my ego was so boosted that I couldn't resist going on a date with him. It's just too bad we had nothing in common and his iq was well, neanderthalic.