Throwing in the towel

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Throwing in the towel
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 12:17am
I'm done dating. I wear my heart on my sleeve and just when I thought I've met a good guy, someone decent and honest, it's like my heart gets ripped out and stomped on and you would think it would get easier but I'm finding that it's harder and harder every time. I'm beginning to wonder if the idea of happily ever after is even worth all of this pain right now.
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Registered: 09-27-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 2:04am

I feel your pain. I just ended something with someone that I have been dating and needing to end it with for some time now and it hurts but I know it's for the best. I feel like throwing in the towel too with every single dating experience that doesn't go right. It gets old really but we have to have hope that he's out there or else we don't have anything if we dont' have hope. I too am a "nice girl" and wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm realizing that sometimes being so kind can bite you in the butt as well. Hang in there sweety, it will get better, someone will realize just how great you really are.
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 4:22am
That's the spirit! Stop while you're still in one piece. No doubt about it, the dating world sure does stink. Sure there might be the occasional good time, but when you get down to it you realize that relationships in general are more trouble than they are worth.
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Registered: 01-03-2006
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 8:16am
Sorry to hear that. But be discouraged that you are nice and wear your heart on your sleeve, some guys actually like that. Keep being yourself so you attract a guy who appreciates the kind of person your are.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 8:19am
I hear ya.
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 9:51am

I've definitely been there.

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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 10:31am

Im sorry you also feel this way. Though I am currently dating someone (and waiting for the other shoe to fall), if this doesn't work out, I am calling it quits.

I'm also a very loving, emotional person and it just seems like the game is just too much for people like me. I'm not trying to encourage you to stop dating too, but just sympathising. I really hope things get better for both of us.

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 10:33am
YES! It's that stupid game. I'm not one to play games and I don't see why guys can't just be upfront and honest. I'd rather hear the truth (or even a freaking lie) then hear nothing at all.
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 11:39am

I do have an encouraging story about a friend of mine that will maybe make us all feel a little better...she, like many of us, was having the worst luck with men - she has dated many guys in the time I've known her and all of them didn't work out for one reason or another.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 12:03pm

I guess I am always the optimist. I have had my heart stomped on so many times, sometimes very badly, but then I'll see a couple like the one you described and feel hopeful again.

I think it's good to take a break after you've had your heart bruised or broken, but don't give up altogether. I really do believe that, eventually, most of us will find a healthy relationship with someone who will stick around. The hard part is getting through the times with the ones who don't stick around.

You will get through it, Rebecca. Hang in there.

Biochic - was it the military guy? Are you ok?

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-20-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:11pm

I too feel like trowing in the towel at times. I recently thought I was going to have it all. Everything I've dreamed about and wanted for the past 36 years was finally happening and then last minute. He bails...

I'm completely heartbroken and it does get harder as you get older. I think mostly because it just makes you think that nobody will ever want you. But the only other option is to get out of the game altogether and I don't think that anybody truly wants to be alone forever. The only option is to heal, work on yourself in the meantime and get back in the game.

Good luck and I'm so sorry you have to feel the pain of another heartbreak. The good thing about going through it so many times is you know it eventually gets better.

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