What Did I Get Myself Into?

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What Did I Get Myself Into?
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Sat, 08-12-2006 - 12:04pm

Out of impulse, I signed up for a speed-dating party. Since I have never done this before, I am feeling a little nervous about it. What should I expect?

On the other hand, last night I made some friends at volleyball. The guy was telling me a little bit about his past dating experience and about his current girlfriend. When I told him that I am looking, he called his girlfriend over and told her about my situation. Apparently, they are going to play matchmaking for me. A part of me is feeling uneasy about matchmaking, but perhaps it is time for me to have a little faith and trust in life. Really, I am just going to meet someone....

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 12:52pm

I think that when you haven't dated in awhile and then you throw yourself back into it, it's always uncomfortable.

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 11:16pm
Speed dating is one of the things that I haven't tried, be sure to let us know how it goes. And I would love if some of my friends had people to set me up with! I'm so tired of online dating that I'm going on hiatus :) You never know what will happen!
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Registered: 08-13-2006
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 5:21am
I say go for it! Here's your chance! Remember that your main motive, first and foremost is to have fun.. =D She would dig that. Don't be nervous.
Enjoy and Best of Luck!
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Registered: 12-17-2005
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 11:46am
I feel it is best to meet people thru people myself. Have in mind what you would like to say to let him know that you are/aren't interested in dating him (my suggestion).
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 12:32pm

My best friend is always playing matchmaker. Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad. Hope for the best and you never know what will happen.

As for speed-dating, good luck to that as well. I've never tried it and even though I can talk to almost anybody, I dont know if I would be able to do it. I think thats a brave thing to try.

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Registered: 12-19-2005
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:42pm

I did speed dating a couple of years ago…,

…, it was at EMP (Experience Music Project) in Seattle. Basically we had half of the bar…, some instructions were given to the group and then the women were placed at tables with numbers on them…., the guys received cards with the numbered sequence and when the emcee sounded the bell we went to our first table.

When I got to the first table I introduced myself and then we had 5 minutes to talk. There are some questions on the cards for ice breakers just in case you can’t think what to say…, anyway, after 5 minutes they announce the switch and you move to the next table.

It seemed Ok to me…, I mean I wasn’t nervous or anything, but I’m normally pretty gregarious. This session was for 35 to 45 yo’s and I would say you have the usual…, guys: some losers who come dressed grungy, some techy types, some a professional types. One really cool dude (me)…,

…, hahaha, just kidding.

For the women: some girls dressed grungy (why people don’t suit up for these things I just don’t know…, I wore a sport coat and tie), a lot of women in little black dresses and heels (P.S. wear something with color, it catches guys attention), some professional women.

There were various physical types, intelligence levels and races but everyone seemed to do Ok. I think the women can feel a little awkward, what with sitting in one spot and having the guys come to them…., anyway you jot down who you liked on the card and turn it in at the end. If two people like each other then their contact info is forwarded to each party.

It was weird but not too weird. I went on a couple dates from that event…, didn’t really hit it off with anyone though.

So go ahead and do it…, it ain’t that bad.

Adrastos

P.S. You will get at least one person that you have to put up with for 41/2 minutes...., because in the first 30 seconds you realized you didn't want to talk to this person anymore...., if you ask nicely I'll tell you which one that was for me.