He didn't call...
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He didn't call...
| Tue, 08-15-2006 - 8:59pm |
So this weekend I left a little note for a guy I like, knowing that he would get it Monday. Just a casual...let me know if you want to grab dinner... kinda thing. Prior to now I've sensed that he may be interested just a little shy, so I took this approach so the ball would be in his court and he had an openening. Well it's Tuesday night and I thought I would have heard from him tonight. I haven't, so I'm kinda bumming. My friend wonders if he's busy but he always said he didn't get out much... ugh.
This feeling sucks, I'm sure you've all been there too, it's a bit discouraging. He's the first guy I've really liked since I broke up with my bf 6 months ago. I was just really hoping he would call... *sigh*

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He may still call...it's only been a couple days. But I think if he's someone you see regularly, if he were interested, he would have asked you out. That's not to say it was wrong of you to express your interest, but IMO you pretty much need to assume that if a guy's not asking you out, it's because he's not interested, and so not be disappointed when you make an overture and you don't get the response you were hoping for.
Sheri
I am sorry you're feeling bummed about this. Maybe he is busy. Give it a few more days. If he does not call back by Friday, then his interest is probably elsewhere.
I hope that you're really ready to move on though. You just lost your BF 6 months ago, and the last thing you want is to rebound, especially when you have not completely gotten over it.
Anyway, cheer up. It does get better after a break up. And one more thing, guys say so much when they meet people online. Just be careful.
LOL...I just have to clear up, we didn't meet online. We see each other on a semi-regular basis but don't get too much time to talk, just small talk. He seems pretty shy and not the type to make the first move...which is why I attempted.
I am very much ready to move on from my break-up, the relationship just fizzled and we weren't right for each other and knew it. I'm actually very glad I broke it off because time gives you clarity.
I don't find myself interested in many guys, I typically like to have a few interactions and develop a crush as opposed to just asking anybody out or trying internet dating. But that's just me...
What do you mean by "left a little note"?
Ivil_Sephora16,
I don't think there is such a thing as a shy guy when it comes to dating. I've had more 'shy' guys ask me out than cocky, arrogant guys who just stare at me and are too insecure to make a move. In my experience, if a guy wants to ask you out, he doesn't need to be nudged into it.
Feisty
Edited 8/16/2006 7:34 am ET by feisty01
Hal!
I was wondering where you had been. I edited my post to write "cocky, arrogant guys". To be honest, every guy that I have dated seriously, I didn't show huge signs of interest, they pursued me and they really worked to get my attention. I personally am not attracted to men who are shy anyway because they are too much hard work and I think if you start off making it easy for men, then you set a precedent. Similarly, if a guy chases a woman when she is clearly in the wrong, he will always have to chase her. I think a lot of good looking men who appear to be very self confident in a group situation have a lot of difficulty in approaching attractive women they are interested but it suits me fine because I'm not all that interested in insecure men either.
Feisty
Hmmm... I say give it a few more days. He may still call. If not, I wouldn't pursue it any further. You made your interest clear and I don't think you can get any clearer especially since you're sure he got your note.
(Sigh)I give my props to you for atleast letting your feelings known but I've heard to many stories from women who like guys and feel the guy might be shy so they make their feelings known more clearly and the guy just doesn't respond. I'm not saying this is your case or it happens all the time but it seems to happen quite often. It's probably because the guy may not have been as interested in us as we thought?
But hold your head up. I mean think about it. If you were really interested in this guy and he left you a note that he would like to grab dinner or something, wouldn't you jump? Once a crush of mine called me and asked me to have lunch with him one day. I was so beside myself. I called him the next day to arrange a lunch date. I didn't wait to long because I didn't want him to change his mind.
So... I say if he doesn't call you soon, I'd say nip it in the bud and move on. Don't even try to figure it out further. You'll drive yourself crazy. The ball is in his court. You've done your part. Atleast if he doesn't call, that should give you closure.
Awwww i know how you feel. I have been waiting a month for a call (guy doesn't live where i live and is only here every so often) and i know how much the waiting game sucks.
I say give it a few more days and if he doesn't call them forget about him (which i also know is hard to do).
On a side note...why is it that so many of us women think that guys are into us when they apparently aren't? It really is such a letdown when you are positive a guy has shown some interest in you and then all of the sudden there is nothing. I really am getting sick of this happening to me! :(
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