Back again after a time away...

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Registered: 02-05-2005
Back again after a time away...
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 6:24pm
Well, my life has had plenty of ups n downs. I am nearing my 1 year anniversary of being single. I am also nearing my 1 yr. anniversary of being sexually celibate. AND, i am nearing my 2 year anniversary of the date i was sexually assaulted. Why are you wondering about my emoticon?
Let met tell ya....I am a happy person these days. No one to tell me i am doing things wrong. No one to argue about the housework not getting done before company comes. No one to tell me when we are goin to have sex. Course, i can't wait to get back into the dating pool again. After taking this year for myself i learned alot. I focused on the healing of myself, my psyche, my emotional self, everything about me is different. Those men out there better watch out because Imnothere is coming out of the woodwork and taking control.
I know BE CAREFUL...I sure will be. I am going to still take baby steps when it comes to dating. IF i do not feel comfortable with someone or something...i will voice it immediately so that it can be worked at so that i can become comfortable.
Course, since i have been a deadbeat dater, i could use a little advice from those of you who are hitting 40 and dating.
I am not sure about bar hopping. I am not much a drinker. In fact i am a pop drinker but now because of a hike in my cholesterol i have shelved the pop now. I do have a list of boundaries and plan to stick by them.
First and foremost: I am looking for the drug free non smoking non-alcoholic. So maybe my best bet would be to pick up a guy in the local library. rofl.
I am moving into a new town far away from my family. Not so far that i wont be able to visit more than 3 times a week. But far enough to truly detach my being from that old bar crowd i use to see when i was with my X. I will be near new clubs, bars that will help me gain new friends. i probably won't frequent them but 2 times a month.
OK...well any advice will be great. Thanks.
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 2:39am

>Course, since i have been a deadbeat dater, i could use
>a little advice from those of you who are hitting 40 and dating.

I don't think the advice for dating changes as you get older. Unless at 20 you really were interested in a smoking, drug-taking alcoholic :-)