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Dating/ relationship advice
| Wed, 09-13-2006 - 11:18pm |
When it comes to dating and/or relationship advice, whose advice do you trust the most?
You see, I have a really close girl-friend (I love her to death), I value her advice and I often seek her when I'm in need because she seems to understand me the most. However, her relationships are...well...to put it mildly, unstable. Would you still continue to take her advice knowing that her relationships are rarely successful?
I find that she often turns my small problems into HUGE issues which need to be dealt with immediately or else, which makes me worry even more and ultimately makes me doubt my relationship more than ever.
Anyone else experienced the same thing?

What I do is not to ask for advice and trust myself. This is part of acknowledging my own wisdom and self worth. I also want to make my own mistakes not someone else's. Plus I know myself the best and know what I values and what my values are.
What I do ask my friends is their *perspective* on situations... which is different than advice. Perspective is what they see about the situation but do not offer what to DO, which is advice. This is because I sometimes get wrapped up seeing reality/the situation/the person only one way.
Mark
Like Mark, I don't tend to ask for relationship advice.