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| Mon, 09-18-2006 - 4:07am |
The first time you really feel something for someone....your first love.
You are with them and then it ends and you dont speak to them for 4-5 years....and you still cant stop thinking about them even though you havent spoken to that person in almost half a decade....
What could that possibly mean?

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It means that you have some really good memories.
My view is that it's the fantasy of what MIGHT have been.
You only got to see this person for a very short period of time (and you were young and idealistic, probably). This person was a fantasy. But then the fantasy ended. And you're left with all these fantastic memories and ideal notions.
It's also the memory of that flow of hormones you got when you were close to that person. It's a chemical high, make no mistake about that.
But here's what you MISSED: you missed seeing this person get old, gain weight, get sick after a night of drinking too much, etc. You missed real life as it really is. And you missed seeing this person after the chemical high wore off.
No big mystery. Just biology in action.
if you are not involved with anyone else it could mean that you are longing to be. and this person,to you, signifies being in a relationship. if you are involved with someone, either you haven't had enough closure or you aren't happy and you possibly want out of the relationship you are in.
Sarah
I think you already know the answer to that question.
That means that you have spent the last half of a decade wasting your life pining for someone who is history and therefore didn't make any effort at all to go out there and meet a new 'love of your life' thus eliminating the need to live in the past.
I really don't know what you'd gain from it.
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