De-lurking, with a question!

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Registered: 05-22-2006
De-lurking, with a question!
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 7:17pm

Hi everyone!

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 7:44pm

Ok, any 37yo who needs daddy to get dates for him, well...c'mon.

I understand why you're creeped out. I would be as well.

I say tell him you have a boyfriend. That saves him trying again later.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 8:48pm

I agree! 37 and his dad is trying to hook him up? Wow. I understand some people are shy but seriously, if you're THAT shy seek some help so you can improve your own quality of life. I would naturally avoid him and his father as well but if you're approached just simply say you're flattered but your recently out of a pretty rough relationship and not dating.

Don't worry, this isn't all that's out there. It always just seems that the ones you don't want to approach you do! LOL. How ironic huh?

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Registered: 05-22-2006
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 9:11pm

ITA!!


I mean.....did they actually think that approach was a good, effective idea?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 9:58pm

Something like that happened to my little sister once....when she was 14.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 8:10am
Wow they sound like a dysfunctional family! A man so timid that his daddy has to procure dates for him? I would say I was seeing someone if approached by the dad again. Besides, I think it lets the other person down easier. If this man is too timid to approach you his self esteem will just be further damaged by you saying you are not interested. Iri
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 10:45am

>>I was just saying that tonight, actually, how all the ones you aren't interested in are the ones who are right there, yet the ones you want rarely come forward!<<

Yep. Twice this past week I've been leered at or chatted up by men close to my father's age and not even remotely appealing to me (scruffy, unkempt). It does make me wonder if I'm even attractive to the men I find attractive (closer to my age, clean cut, have it together)...

...but then I realize it's the slimy jerks who really don't have anything to lose by approaching you. The better guys tend to also have a better sense of tact and timing - so, it's not that they're not interested, they sometimes just aren't so in-your-face about it.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 12:30pm

So I wonder what is wrong with the direct, honest approach, i.e. tell the guy directly that you do not appreciate him staring at you and that you heard from his father and you are not interested in dating him?

Mark

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Sat, 09-30-2006 - 12:54am

"I say that if he approaches you again (dad or son) just tell him that you're not interested in a guy who hasn't moved beyond junior high dating."


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