I'm confused...

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Registered: 10-09-2006
I'm confused...
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:20pm

Sorry this is so long but I would really appreciate feedback on this:

This guy that I never paid much attention to started mildly flirting (tickled my stomach as he walked by, asking me and no one else if I'm ok a bunch of times, etc.) with me a few months ago and it made me start liking him back. I never had the guts to express it because we've never been alone with eachother and he's not a bold guy--he seems shy because when we talk, he doesn't say much. So I recently had my roommate tell him that I liked him and she said he was excited and told her that he was gonna say something to me. I couldn't wait. I have a brother/sister relationship with the guy's best friend and while I was on the phone him the other night, the guy I like was there. To my surprise his best friend put him on the phone and he told me that I never call him and asked why I never give him any special phone calls. Well we're not close like that so I told him that I don't have his number. Clearly I was excited about this. Anyway he gave me his number and told me to call him and to leave a mssg if he does not answer. So I did a few days later and of course he didn't answer! I left a mssg. for him and it's been 3 days so far and he has not returned my call. It doesn't make sense to me that he told me to call him but he hasn't returned my call.

So finally my questions are: What should I think/do? He is the quiet type, so can this be considered normal? Why did he tell me to call him if he's taking so long to return my call? Should I assume that he's playing games and move on? I'm confused...

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 7:18pm

I think he'll call! If he's shy he's probably a bit nervous about calling you or he's playing the 'waiting' game, probably on the advice of his friend. Who knows who ever came up with the idea to not call someone right back when you like them.

Plus who knows what he's been up to, maybe things are hectic/busy and by the time he gets a chance to call it's too late and he doesn't want to be rude.

Don't give up hope! Plus if he doesn't call you can give him crap about not calling you back and tell him no more special calls! LOL. Keeps things light and fun, he'll either get the hint of feel comfortable enough to call you.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 7:32pm

The best advice I can give you is to forget about the phone call.