How long has everyone been single for

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How long has everyone been single for
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 8:28pm
Just wondering the length of time that everyone on this board has been single for. I'm not counting casual dating experiences but just the length of time you've been dating or alone since your last real relationship. For me it's been almost a year and a half (wow! this is the longest time I have been) not counting kind of dating that guy in the Navy when he was on deployment this year but basically he wasn't around for the full first half of the year and then when he got back we barely hung out and then decided to call it quits soon thereafter. Is a year and a half a long time to be single? I'm thinking it is for me at least.

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Avatar for cl_shywon
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 10:23pm

That kind of depends on what you call "casual" and "real."

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Wed, 10-11-2006 - 12:29pm
no way! :) A year and a half is not a long time of being single.... The last time I dated someone was my sophmore year in HIGH SCHOOL and now I am a JUNIOR in college (21yrsold) Thats a long time... I hate the single life, I look around and all my friends are happily dating someone and then I come into the picture and Im still single. Right now I really dont mind b/c I am trying to get through nursing school and I dont really have the time for dating anyways right now but it does suck :(
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Wed, 10-11-2006 - 8:54pm

Well, it all depends on your definitions of course ;-). My last LTR ended over 9 years ago (I define a LTR as lasting at least 2 years). I've had a number of relationships lasting anywhere from 2 to 18 months since then.

So a year and a half doesn't seem that long to me, LOL!

Sheri

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Thu, 10-12-2006 - 12:50am
Oh if you are counting 2 years or more as a relationship then I would have to say it's been 6 years for me lol. I dont' like to count my last really long realtionship since it was very unhealthy and dysfunctional. I count my last 10 month and 1.5 yr relationships because they were at least more healthy than that 4 year one. Even though this past year and a half of being single has been difficult for me. It's also been a huge eye opener and I have learned a ton about myself in the process so maybe being single a little longer can't hurt.....
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Thu, 10-12-2006 - 10:11am
It's been since March of 2005, about a year and a half here, too. It took me so long to get over that guy. While I think that is a really long time, I know I needed it. It took me a long time to get over that guy and the things that happened in the relationship. Now that I'm really ready to be in another relationship, I sure hope it doesn't take very long to find mr. right!!
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Thu, 10-12-2006 - 10:40am

It's kind of funny to see how everyone defines 'relationship' and 'single'.

I consider single as in not seeing somebody exclusively. If you're dating for a month but only dating each other and proceeding forward, then that's not being single. If you've been dating for a month but it's understood that you can both see other people, then you're single. That's how I personally define it.

That said...7 months or so? I haven't really been counting, haha. This is the longest ever for me, after 6 years of serious relationships and I'm very much content with being single. Granted I would mind if a greay guy fell in my lap right now but I'm not 'trying'.

I'd rather be single for the rest of my life with the hope of finding a great guy than to be stuck in any one of my past relationships and unhappy.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 12:36pm
My last serious relationshp was over 2 years ago. My current relationship, we've been seeing each other almost 7 months but we just became exclusive a month ago. We're still kinda casual but not serious.
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Thu, 10-12-2006 - 12:46pm
Two years - minus one intense 4-month relationship about a year ago.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 10-12-2006 - 12:49pm

>>I wouldn't mind if a great guy fell in my lap right now but I'm not 'trying'<<

LOL. I wouldn't mind a great guy falling in my lap, either. ;)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 10-12-2006 - 12:58pm

Oh, so you had the talk and it went well, I guess! I remember you posting about the fact that you were going to have it, but don't remember seeing anything about the outcome. Glad to hear it!

Sheri

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