Should I kiss her?

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Registered: 10-27-2006
Should I kiss her?
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:25pm

I have gone out with this nice girl about 5 times now. She is in her 30's and so am I. And I think I have a huge crush on her. When we first met she stated that she was just looking for friends and is tryign to get over an ex-boyfriend. But I have some feeling for her I guess and I dont want to be stuck just being her friend, I want more. Our dates have mostly consisted of dinner at really nice restaurants and some other activity like festival, movies or dancing.

On our next date I was thinking of getting her flowers and maybe if I work up enough courage try to make it our first kiss.

I think she likes me, she shows me body language signs and always laughs smiles, etc.

What do you guys think about the whole I want to be friends line? She knows I want a relationship... Should I go for it?

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:43pm

He mentioning 'just friends' may just have been her thoughts in the beginning. However if you've been out 5 times and she seems to be having a great time I would test the waters further. How does she react when you touch her arm during dinner, like when she's telling you about something sad or her crappy day at work? What about if when you're walking down the street you put your arm around her shoulder and pull her close for a couple seconds and tell her you're happy your having dinner tonight. If after your 'moves' she makes a few of her own in a similar manner, you're probably in the clear for a kiss!

Extend your hand to her, say while crossing the street or while leading her through a crowd....she'll either take it just cause she wants to touch you or she'll decline because that's not where she wants things between you to lead.

If I were her and into you, by 5 dates I would be getting soooo antsy waiting for a kiss. If you wait too much longer she may question if maybe YOU just want to be friends?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 9:41pm

I would ASK her how she's feeling at this point, given her recent breakup. Does she still want to keep it on a friends level, or is she ready to take it up a notch? If you just disregard what she said at the beginning and go for a kiss, that could be seen as disrespectful.

Sheri