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| Sun, 12-31-2006 - 4:26pm |
Hi Everyone... Happy New Years!
I broke up with my bf about 3 months ago... we'd been on and off for about 3 years prior. Because of the fact that we were on and off so much.. i've gotten used to breaking up and it has gotten easier and easier each time for me. A few friends of mine have mentioned the whole rebound thing. I've never been one to believe in the rebound thing. To me.. if you feel like having some meaningless sex after a break up.. why put a lable on it, right?
This brings me to my reason for writing this. Over the past month or so, i've been having a bit of a "flirt-a-thon" with this guys from my work. We've known each other for nearly 4 years and he dated a friend of mine 2 years ago. I'm pretty sure that he isn't looking for anything serious... there's just a mutual attraction here. A big issue for me in the past was analyzing things too much.. not going with the flow and letting things happen. Its something i have a hard time with... sometimes i think it's because i'm afraid of letting things get out of my control so i control things myself.
I guess i don't have a specific question here... i'm just so out of the loop when it comes to dating and what not... i just don't know how to go about things. This guy from my work.. i'm just not sure how to go about things. As i said- the attraction is mutual... i had a thing for him when i first started at my work but we haven't talked too much in the past 1 or so until recently.
Help!

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!
I did this with someone I worked with right after my divorce, and it ended up BADLY!!!!
I ended up having to quit my job because it was so bad.
Just imagine that if it does end, how are you going to deal with seeing him and working with him every day...and even if it doesn't end badly on your part, what if he becomes crazy and makes you miserable? You never think they will, but some guys do get nuts after a situation like that...and then where would you be? Working at McDonalds, that's where.
Kanger1,
I would not risk my job or professional reputation for a fling or a rebound relationship. I would only do it if I thought it would lead to a long term relationship. From your post, you sound like you become easily attached so a workplace fling is definitely not a good idea. It's not worth it because the fall out might be very bad and although you may have the maturity to deal with it, don't assume that this guy does even if he did go out with your friend previously. I tend to steer clear of men who make a habit of dating or flirting with women at work. It's unprofessional. Find excitement outside of work hours.
Feisty