Being Nervous
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| Sat, 01-06-2007 - 1:45am |
My question may sound strange, but please, as you always do, bare with me. A sex therapist claimed that many couples do not have satisfying sex lives or relationships because they do not know how to enjoy pleasures, including the simple ones like a hug or a compliment, and that they were conditioned to interpret pleasures as dangerous. This insight has been helpful, for now when I see a girl that I am interested in, I try to relax, to enjoy the burning sensation and not to extinguish it, whereas before I would feel stressful and would want to run away.
I still feel very nervous when I see someone intriguing, but the nervousness is of a more positive type. Now, how do I constructively express the "nervous energy", to approach her and ask her out? I figure that, like we are told to constructively express our angers and sorrows so that we may grow, I need to constructively express my "nervous energy" so that the experience can be even more enjoyable!
Like I said, the question sounds strange, but I am confident that I am going in the right direction as I am learning how to enjoy myself and teaching my body to embrace the burning sensation and to do something positive about it. Your comments will be appreciated!
