Kissing problems

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Registered: 01-08-2007
Kissing problems
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Mon, 01-08-2007 - 4:11pm
Hey everyone, I have a question.
I'm 18 and have met a great guy. I never had mch of a dating life before, but now it's really picking up. With past guys, however, I've never enjoyed kissing-I'd try to do what they did, but I didn't get any sensations, no matter how much I liked the guy (I've kissed 3 guys; the first was the worst, really, the second I simply adorded the guy, and third I had a crush on for a long time..he's a pretty popular and experienced guy, and I felt a little more when I kissed him then the other guys. I know he was "doing it right", but I didn't feel what everyone talks about). Kissing wasn't thrilling or made me feel good or anything; I felt nothing. Same goes for when he ("he" goes for all three guys; and I am very striaght, so it's not that) would kiss my neck. Is something wrong with me?
Well, I really like this new guy and I want to be able to kiss him and actually feel the great feelings everyone talks about when they kiss. We've gone on two dates so far and haven't kissed, so I'm thrilled to get the chance to ask for some advice before we do. Can someone please help me? I think I'm not doing it right, but I don't know. There's the whole tilt your head the other way thing, I get that, but actually doing it?-not so much.
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Registered: 01-08-2007
In reply to: kal29
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 6:50pm
And yes, I've tried going with my "natural instincts"..still nothing.
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In reply to: kal29
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 8:29pm
Everyone has to start somewhere. I didn't have my first real kiss until I was 17. Keep in mind that the guy you are kissing has been where you are and he may be just as inexperienced as yourself. You may be so focused on the technique, you aren't able to experience that euphoric feeling most of us get when kissing someone we like. Try duplicating what he is doing until you get more practice. He'll never know, trust me. Good luck!
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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: kal29
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 7:16am
Not everyone is turned on by the same things. Some people just aren't turned on by kissing. You may be one of them.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: kal29
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 9:00am
I agree with what lovinhockey said, and also wanted to add that maybe you're nervous.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
In reply to: kal29
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 5:45am
Hmm I find that kissing just comes naturally! Also it is different with different people...and yes I do also think that it depends on the level of attraction. If your not attracted to them (at least in my experience) kissing won't be good. I don't know about any of you, but kissing just to kiss...does absolutely nothing for me if it is with someone I don't care about or feel the least bit attracted to. Like the others said...your probably nervous..so just relax and just go with whatever you feel. Good luck!
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Registered: 11-15-2006
In reply to: kal29
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 5:47am
Also wanted to add, that kissing can be extremely *HOT* and a HUGE turn on if done with the right person!
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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: kal29
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 12:19pm

I agree - when I kiss my new guy, it turns me on in ways that before I never knew were possible.